Christian canons strictly regulate all matters relating to the church and service to God, including the commemoration of those who voluntarily left their lives. On that a person could have very different, including valid reasons, so in any case, on the question of when commemorating the suicides, it is worthwhile to turn to the priest and in detail to tell him about what happened.
When in the church commemorate the suicides?
Churchly, at divine services suicides in Orthodox churches are not commemorated. The whole point is that voluntary withdrawal from life is a very serious sin, and almost in all religions. After all, it is, in fact, murder - violation of one of the ten commandments. That is, a man has placed himself above God, did not rely on his mercy, but dared to decide his own destiny , refusing to temper his spirit through severe trials. In 452, the church council decided that suicide is the result of diabolical malice, and therefore is considered a crime. After 111 years of funeral service, those who chose this path were banned.
Therefore, there is no traditional commemoration for such people, and requiems for them do not serve. It is not customary to arrange a wake for 3, 9 and 40 days, and also exactly one year after death. This is due to the fact that the person who died in this way does not pass through the ordeal, like everyone else, but immediately goes to hell. Therefore, traditional funeral ceremonies have no meaning, since the prayer of those gathered at the same table by the Lord will not be heard anyway.
When can you remember the suicides?
Three years ago, the Orthodox Church accepted the "rite of prayer for the kinsmen of the kinsmen, their belly autocratically died". In fact, this is a moleben, which is performed in the church at the request of relatives and relatives of the deceased in their presence. It can be carried out repeatedly. Those who are wondering if there is a day when they commemorate the suicides, it should be answered that on this day is the parental Saturday before the holiday of the Trinity. However, it is also impossible to consider full commemoration, because the names of those who have committed suicide are not called and
However, in the chants that day, the words about the mercy of the Lord to those who have committed suicide are uttered and the whole point of such a service is that all the relatives and relatives present on it pray mentally about the person dear to them. Those who ask how to commemorate self-assured Christians, we can say that with the permission of the priest, you can read the prayer of the Optian old man Leo. If a person has passed away in a state of intense stress or mental insanity and did not understand what he is doing, the priest can allow him to remember him, as usual.