He grew up a sweet and quiet child, but in one day everything changed. He reacts sharply to criticism, snaps, and sometimes can get into a fight. The manifestations of aggression in adolescents can be found literally in every modern family. But not every parent knows how to curb his child and direct his negative energy into a peaceful channel.
The causes of aggression in adolescents
Teenage age is not in vain usually called transitional. This is a period of overcoming childhood and growing a person as a person. And not all of these metamorphoses go smoothly. Depending on the nature, upbringing and family relations, aggression in children and adolescents can take different forms:
- insult: any word, spoken out of place, can cause a hidden resentment. And not only for adults, but for their own peers;
- irritability: one of the most striking indicators of transitional age. Expressed in rudeness and quick temper for any reason;
- suspicion: at a certain stage of transition, any teenager ceases to trust the outside world, believing that "everyone is against him";
- latent aggression: all requests that sound to the child's address are either ignored or he performs actions opposite to those that sounded;
- indirect aggression: the teenager directs his irritation to a certain person, expressing it in the form of baiting, insults, evil jokes;
- physical aggression: the use of physical force against people;
- verbal aggression: in adolescents, it manifests itself in the form of a negative verbal flow - cries, threats and words. It is the most common factor in the age of transition.
Aggression among adolescents is a phenomenon that can not be insured. Even if the offspring received a lot of attention and were properly educated before the transition, there is no guarantee that it will not change when reaching the age of 12-13. Therefore, prevention of aggression in adolescents should be conducted in each family.
Correction of aggression in adolescents
Unfortunately, the diagnosis of aggression in adolescents is not always possible in the family. But to take a sharply changed child to a psychologist will also be problematic. Therefore, noticing the initial manifestations of aggression, it is worth resorting to certain rules for its suppression:
- Do not respond aggression to aggression. This advice is also relevant for parents of preschoolers. Even if the behavior of the child makes you pretty nervous, do not be like him, otherwise the situation will completely get out of control. Also parents should not swear at the child, as he can copy their behavior.
- The main task of parents is to try to find a common language with the child, excluding obtrusiveness and control. It is important to show the child the best qualities of his personality - leadership, striving for the goal, the ability to achieve one's own, and motivate the child to
development of these qualities. - Many parents are trying to channel the energy of a teenager into a peaceful channel. For these purposes, different sections are perfect: designing, dancing, playing sports, etc.
- All their behavior parents should give the child to feel like a full member of the family, whose opinion is respected and respected. The child should feel necessary and understood.
- Respect the child's views on life, do not try to impose his opinion on him. Remember that he is also a person, even if not mature.