People meet and diverge, quarrel or live in peace and harmony. They are all different and not similar to each other. But no matter how the relationship develops with one or another pair, there will always be one common element between them, which can spoil all life. Her name is jealousy. At first it is completely invisible, then, as a bite of an insect occasionally starts to bother, and even completely eclipses the eyes and can lead to sad consequences. To avoid this, we will try to understand one of the most pressing issues - how to learn not to be jealous of her husband?
Classics of the genre - the wife is jealous of her husband
A greasy dressing-gown, lashes of hair curlers walking on the head and a rolling pin in his hand. This is how most wives draw wives who meet their faithful. And husbands continually go home late, come with someone else's lipstick on their shirt, slightly podshofe, or do not come. And it would be ridiculous, if it was not true, which has long overgrown with various jokes. And it seems that the wives are always jealous and will be jealous, and husbands always gave occasions and will give them. However, there is one BUT in this situation. If you look deep into the problem, husbands do not often give reasons for jealousy, as it seems. And almost every woman who complains: "I'm jealous husband - to mother-in-law, to former wife, to his sister," etc., in fact should look for the causes of this feeling in herself. And the first thing you need to start with when deciding how to stop jealous of your husband is to walk through your mind and eliminate insecurity in yourself and in your lover.
How not to be jealous of her husband?
Many ladies are sure to be outraged. Indeed, how can I stop feeling anguish if I'm jealous of my friends to whom he devotes more time, a jealous husband to a former girl who is trying to ruin our relationship, a jealous husband to his mother, who does not really like me and generally I have a lot of reasons for jealousy. At this stage of reflection, it is best to stop and think. Jealousy appears on the spot where the trust and self-confidence give a break. In other words, the real causes of jealousy are not the reasons given by the faithful, but the banal fear of losing the breadwinner and sponsor, the fear of loneliness, the fear of remaining without support, of not being understood, etc. How to deal with this and stop jealous not only of real and ex-husband? This will help in several ways:
- The main trouble for all women - imaginary images and fantasies. There has not yet happened anything terrible, but we have already painted the worst thing we could do. My husband did not have to perform unseemly acts in my head, but we have a picture of the complete act of treason already firmly in my head. To get rid of this bad habit it is important to learn to be distracted from jealousy:
- take a bath with herbs and tasty oils or a contrast shower. Water helps to relax and distract from oppressive thoughts;
- take up any sport. In the training process, you will not only be distracted but also release steam and accumulated anger. Even though it was invented by you;
- more often meet with friends and friends. But do not tell them a word about your relationship with your husband. Remember that your family is holy and you can not tolerate a dirty hut in any case.
- Make order in your inner world. You are jealous of your man to beauties in short skirts with a model appearance. Have you looked in the mirror yourself for a long time? And what do you see there? Whether it is time to descend or go to the cosmetician, the hairdresser or barber, to dump or steam a pair of superfluous kgs or to update a wardrobe? If at least one item is not carried out by you, then do not be surprised that your faithful can turn after a beautiful stranger. And if you do not like yourself internally, then why should you like your husband? The first and most important thing to do is to gain self-confidence and love yourself. Then the fears associated with trusting your man will be an order of magnitude smaller.
- Another important question - how to be if a man really gives reasons for jealousy and has repeatedly been almost caught unawares? In this case again look around yourself and ask any friends how you look. Remember how you behave and whether there is not in your behavior what your beloved pushes from you. If
all right, get your man out for a frank conversation. But do not make scandals. Talk frankly and try to find out exactly what he lacks in your relationship.
And most importantly - try to put yourself in the shoes of your man. How will you constantly feel total distrust and discontent? Remember that every one of your jealousies is one more step that brings the man closer to the action in which he is suspected. Respect the freedom and choice of the beloved. Love yourself and rest assured of yourself. Then the reasons for jealousy will go away by themselves, and not becoming real.