Divorce in the vast majority of cases is a difficult situation for its participants and for their relatives, especially if the broken family has children. It is understandable, because creating a family, entering into marriage, spouses, as a rule, do not consider such a provision as a certain contract with a certain period. And yet, adults should understand that the family (even initially held, as they say, for love) is, first of all, in the broadest sense an enterprise for the creation of a comfortable life together, continuation of the family, mutual assistance and understanding (the list can be extended) .
Particularly bad after the divorce is felt by one of the spouses who was not the party initiating the divorce (often, and to someone who initiated, too, "unsweetened", but still easier). Spouses the prospect of life after a divorce can be seen negatively, so the advice of a psychologist can, in some way, help. Well, at least, sort out yourself, in a situation and decide how to live on.
How to survive?
How to survive the divorce and arrange your life after a divorce - advice of a psychologist:
- try to stay calm and with dignity;
- hold a "blow", maybe you are provoked specially to check;
- Analyze, try to look at the situation from different points of view;
- analyzing your own and other people's mistakes, remember that everyone has the right to make a mistake;
- try to find pros in a new situation, do what you wanted to do for a long time, but postponed;
- more distracted by music, movies, books, hobbies , go to museums and theaters;
- meditate, walk more often, observe animals, plants and natural phenomena;
- try somewhere to go though
for a few days (on vacation on a business trip, etc.), in order to change the situation and the visible gestalt (that is, the image of the world), the road itself "heals"; - do not lose the presence of the spirit, life has not yet ended, it is likely that you are waiting for a lot of interesting things, if you are ready for it, so "hook" the smile - suddenly get accustomed;
- try to find the funny in the situation - a sense of humor distinguishes intelligent creatures from animals.
- relax more often, a healthy rest is always needed;
- more often communicate with people on interesting topics, make new acquaintances, including, and in social networks.