Family in the life of a woman has always occupied a central position, but modern society changes the moral foundations of family life, and changes so much that even in schools they began to teach the subject "ethics and psychology of family life." Well, our children will be told about everything, maybe this will help them in the future create happy families. And how to be us, in our schools about the ethics and psychology of family life speech was not conducted, but happiness and peace in the family really want.
Stages of family life
To understand how to make a family life happy, it is worth talking about the stages that each family experiences since its inception. The laws of a happy family life are at every stage.
- The first stage is a love euphoria . Now the couple do not care about the secrets and rules of a happy family life, everything is so wonderful. Young spouses try to do everything together, not wanting to part for a long time. Optimistic plans are being made for a joint future.
- The second stage of family life in psychology is called the period of recognition and addiction . The deafening joy passes, the spouses begin to look more soberly at life. This stage becomes the first serious test in the life of the couple. It happens that people are not ready to see each other without a romantic flair. And instead of the joy of recognition, they receive mutual disappointment and irritation. The most important in this period of family life is the willingness to compromise and the desire to negotiate. Without disputes and quarrels, there can not be a family life. This is perfectly normal and does not mean that you have chosen the wrong person. Each pair can name their own pros and cons of family life, and the latter can be quite a lot. But sometimes a few positive moments can outweigh all the disadvantages.
- The third stage can be called the period of family construction . If the problems of the previous stage of the family have been successfully resolved, then the spouses have time for reconciliation. Now the couple is concerned with the construction of plans for the future and the implementation of joint work. It can be the upbringing of a child, repairing an apartment, building a house, etc. All these actions bring joy to the spouses and unite them.
- The fourth stage is the time of stability . The family has all the responsibilities, the spouses know their responsibility for certain areas of life. The spouses have already learned each other, have got used to small weaknesses and willingly forgive them. Now the children are already arranged in a school (HIGH SCHOOL), the apartment is bought, like all is well. The danger lies in the routine that appears in family life. Therefore, the secrets of preserving the family at this stage can be called fantasy, the ingenuity of the spouses and the desire to be interesting for another. If you do not allow everyday life to completely supersede romance, then your family will continue its happy existence. Otherwise, the next step is.
- The fifth stage is stagnation . Spouses are already struggling to find a place in one territory, sleeping on their half of the bed or in different rooms, communicate only on a big need. Some families continue to live like this, some break up,
but somehow manage to get himself out of this swamp. This happens either after a serious conversation and placing all the points above the "i" or after a significant incident (perhaps tragic) in the life of the family. Then there comes a period of recovery, the couple again begin to build joint plans for the future and hope for the best. And the couple has an invaluable experience and a desire not to admit mistakes made earlier.
Councils for the preservation of a happy family life can be given a lot. But, probably, the most important will be the calls to love, respect and appreciate your soul mate.