"Married unbearably" - a fun school rule or a reflection of the female essence. After all, it is accepted that any girl wants to get married, this is literally the purpose of her existence.
Why do women want to get married?
The question is why the girls want to marry, they are old as the world, so there have been a lot of studies on this topic. The latter showed the following results.
- In the first place (30% of respondents) it turned out that women want to have support and confidence in the future. This is easily explained by physiology - the natural purpose of a woman to give birth to a child, but at the time of pregnancy and after it a woman needs the support of a man. That is why the ladies who realized the need for the appearance of a child in their lives, so want to officially consolidate their relationship.
- A woman who says "I really want to get married", most likely, is looking for in a marriage of love. In any case, this is the second most popular (22%) answer to the question of the desire to tie the knot. Of course, you can argue that you can love without a wedding. But this option is often chosen by ladies who want to marry a "prince", they do not have a specific person. Well, those who maintain a permanent relationship, believe that in marriage, love is more reliable.
- Why do women want to get married? Because this is what society imposes on them. Mums, grandmothers, sisters of a friend - all begin to sincerely sympathize with the girl who did not marry, even if she says she wants to enjoy freedom yet. Even all the tales and ladies' novels end with the princesses finding their princes. Therefore, in the ladies' head there is a stereotype - one should strive for marriage with all the strength. This opinion is shared by 19% of respondents.
- Why are girls so unmarried unbearable? And here the reasons for the social nature are to blame, 18% of the respondents said that they believe that they can be fully realized only in marriage. Some are afraid of public opinion - unmarried with such a pleasure glue label "loser".
- About 5% of respondents are afraid of loneliness - suddenly in old age a glass of water will not be given to anyone.
- The remaining 6% are rather original opinions. Some girls want a wedding for the sake of a wedding dress and a limousine trip, someone else does not want to live with their parents, and someone wants to brag to the girlfriends ring on the ring finger.
Do you intend to marry unhappy, but not early?
Since public opinion is so shaping our consciousness, it would be nice to find out what it thinks about the ideal age for marriage.
Despite the desire to get married, many ladies believe that the ideal time for marriage is 25-27 years. Society treats marriage well at the age of 27-35, but people complain about young brides and those who are going to be married for the first time after 35 years.
If a woman marries late, the society will necessarily suspect her of inferiority-she would have been looking for a couple for so many years, she did not want to marry, but now she found, for sure, some inferior.
When a girl says "I'm 18 years old, I want to get married", she too can not hide from the condemning views and gossip. Particularly compassionate will tell stories about themselves or about a girlfriend, how she unsuccessfully married early.
Summarizing, we can say that by the time of marriage, a woman must get education, find a job, have an established character. But too tight with marriage is also not worth it.
How to stop wanting to get married?
Sometimes a woman wants to marry so much that it prevents her from building normal relationships with men - who will not be deterred by the running line on the forehead of the ladies "Take me to the registry office"? How to be in this case?
It is necessary to understand yourself, to understand what exactly you mean by marriage - a beautiful ceremony, social status, the creation of a happy family? To answer this question it is necessary that the man feel not your intention to take away his freedom, but your desire to be a caring and faithful wife, to give him a bunch of kids, etc. If you want a holiday, then you need to admit it yourself. Believe, you will only then be able to fulfill your desire, to find that man, when you understand what exactly you need from life. Beware of getting under the power of stereotypes, perhaps you do not get anything just because you really do not want it, but are going to go on about parents and friends.