How often can you hear from women: "I hate my husband"! And this phrase can hide a lot - and drama, and comedy, and love, and enmity, and sin, and redemption.
Protection - in a reasonable way
Unequivocal advice on what to do if you really hate your husband, obviously not. The reasons for hatred can be many - habits, smell, untidiness, external unattractiveness, deeds. As well as the relations themselves, material issues and, of course, relatives. First of all, answer the question: "Why do I hate my husband?" To myself. And then - keep calm, although it is difficult, and act, but with intelligence and caution. It is necessary to weigh all the circumstances in order to decide how to proceed.
Husband is a big child
For the most part, men are just big kids. When, hating your husband, you are thinking about what to do, remember what uncomplicated relationships are in children at 5-7 years of age. Here at this level men communicate all their lives. Few grow to the age of 14-15 in its development. And women can grow up all their life. And, with the birth of a child, they grow up spasmodically - they just look at everything with different eyes. So, you did not smile in response to your smile - do not hate your husband for this, because a child's adult always surpasses. In response to your affectionate attitude, the faithful raises his hand - remember that children are more prone to unjustified cruelty than adults.
Hate should work for you
Determine if there is a reaction on his part to your feelings. Sometimes, starting to hate your husband, you do not create discomfort for him, but on the contrary, create conditions, a "springboard" for him to be more comfortable in something. At the same time, hating your husband, you are not getting anything except doing yourself harm. Moreover, the husband can deliberately induce hatred in you - this creates even more convenient conditions for him. The main rule: if because you hate your husband, it gets good - then you need to defend yourself completely by the absence of negative emotions and feelings in you. Where to get patience? And you do not need to take it anywhere - just switch your attention to other tasks - let this part of your environment not obscure the whole other world from you.
In case of treason
If your state of hatred is caused by betrayal of your husband - this is the most destructive of emotions. The insidiousness of this situation is that, hating your husband for treason, you increase his self-esteem, which is clearly not in your interests. Ignoring treachery, you level out the whole significance of this event, including for the husband. And for an intelligent man, enmity does not benefit. Whether you divorce or think how to stop hating your husband, a calm and balanced attitude to the situation, in any case, will be more beneficial to you.
Struggle for power
Sometimes the hatred is caused by the desire to dominate the family. What if you hate your husband for taking your favorite place at the computer more conveniently, taking a shower for two hours, or even ignoring him, regardless of your protests? The main thing is that you realized the feeling of hatred and the reason that caused it. Now you are armed with knowledge - these events should be ignored, switched from them to another type of occupation, find a replacement for them.
When you are divorced
It's no secret that even after the divorce, many people hate their ex-husband. The reason may be that your feelings have not cooled down yet. So, it is necessary to act, and in no case to succumb to despondency, despair, not to swear and not to be nervous. You are free - this is the main thing. Now bathe yourself in all the pleasures that you can afford - sanatoria, fitness clubs, manicure rooms, libraries, museums, theaters, just your favorite books, flowers or handicrafts (or maybe travel?) - everything is calling you, waiting for your attention,
Love is still alive
When a woman says that she loves and hates her husband, this shows that relations are experiencing only a temporary crisis. After all, love can do anything. By the way, it is proved that love is pure chemistry, a set of self-starting chemical reactions. And the chemistry, that is, the substance, can be influenced very simply - a set of consumed products. Strengthen your diet with vitamins, especially group B, eat more protein, less sugar, but turn on honey, chocolate, do not interfere with coffee - it calms. Pull yourself out of the depression, if you are drawn into it, increase your self-esteem - and everything will eventually improve. Good luck!