Quite often, ladies, tired of unsuccessful relationships, the basis of which were fiery feelings, decide "but her, this love, I'll marry by calculation!". But often on the girls who decided to make a marriage according to the calculation, they look, as if they were corrupt, who have nothing sacred, they are washed with great pleasure by stones and called bad words. Is it really the fault of ordinary envy or popular rumor, and marriage of convenience is the last thing that only a woman who does not respect herself can decide?
Marriage for love or for convenience?
At first glance, the relations of calculation seem disgusting and differ from the sex offered by prostitutes, only a stamp in the passport. But this is only at first glance, because if you think about it, only eighteen-year-old girls blinded by feelings run to the registrar's office. Older women still think about whether their elect will be able to provide for the family, whether he will take care of his wife and children and whether he wants to do it. And do not think that this is the destiny of only heartless and pragmatic ladies, many brides with shining eyes, before deciding to marry, if not weighed all the pros and cons, then at least they thought "what will we live on ". And there is nothing in these seditious thoughts - you will not be full of love. Moreover, there are a lot of stories when marrying without special feelings, but with a firm belief that a man will become a good husband, the women after a while fell in love with him. So wedding by calculation does not exclude love, as it is commonly believed.
Now that we are convinced that almost any marriage is based on common sense and not in love euphoria, we can talk about the classic version of marriage by calculation.
Married by calculation - pros and cons
By the expression "marriage by calculation" it is customary to understand the conclusion of a marriage union with benefits for both parties. Most often this benefit is prescribed in the marriage contract. How is life in such a marriage of convenience? And it all depends on whether you decided to marry only for the money of a man or he and you are cute. Agree, to live with a person who is disgusting to you is quite difficult, even if in the material plan you will not be at all embarrassed. Also very much depends on the marriage contract. Usually ladies pay little attention to it, relying on the specialists of the future husband. So do not be in any case, the lawyers invited by the future spouse, will be in the first place to watch his interests, but nobody cares about your own, most likely, will not. Therefore, the preparation of a marriage contract should be approached very carefully. In addition, marrying the calculation, you should be ready for the following points in the marital life:
- Full control over the actions of the wife, for her movements and contacts. It is caused not by over-suspiciousness of the spouse, but by the desire to be sure that the children will be exactly from him, and not from the barman who has attracted a young wife. In this case, the spouse himself such restraint in the links to show and not think, unless, of course, the reverse is not spelled out in the marriage contract. Often, such control disappears after the couple acquires a child or the right amount of heirs prescribed in the contract.
- Maybe getting into the "golden cage": the spouse will provide everything necessary, but you will not have the right to vote. This is due to the fact that a man considers a woman to be one of her acquisitions, like an elite pet - food and care are self-evident, but who will consult a pet? Of course, this state of affairs can only be if all finances are concentrated in the hands of the husband.
It is also possible that the spouse does not practically appear in your field of vision, spending most of the time on business trips and working meetings. But many people like this situation - if only the money on the card does not end.
But do not think that everything is so bad, even in a classical marriage of convenience there are advantages:
- Acquisition by both sides of the desired, and, hence, complete satisfaction of both sides from such an alliance.
- Here, the option of marriage dissolution is excluded, except in cases stipulated in the contract.