Nowadays a happy marriage is a rarity. This can be judged on the basis of only statistics on divorce, which states that from 60% to 80% of all marriages eventually disintegrate. That is why it is worth thinking about how to make the marriage happy, from the very beginning, to maintain the relationship on the positive.
Are there any happy marriages?
The answer to this question is unambiguous - yes, and the foundations of a happy marriage are simple and understandable to everyone, just in time people cease to consider it necessary to adhere to them.
In essence, the psychology of a happy marriage is similar to the psychology of happy relationships: respect, mutual understanding, support and diversity are needed, because it is because everything is boring, and mutual "digging in shortcomings" begins, together, so that, like before , appeal to the merits.
Secrets of a Happy Marriage
The path to a happy marriage lies through the realization of one's own mistakes. After all, if initially everything was "bad," you would not marry this person. Hence, if we return to the origins, we can return to the relationship much of what has already been forgotten, but always has always pleased you.
- The first rule of a happy marriage is mutual respect! Never speak ill of what is important to your spouse. Do not swear in public. Do not allow yourself insulting words and sarcastic tone. RESPECT your partner in every sense of the word.
- The statistics of happy marriages show that people who have common interests or a common job are much more satisfied with their marriage than the rest. Your task is to find it. Dance courses? Doing sports? Supply system? Walking in the evenings? Joint creativity? You should have a common cause, which gives you a lot of joy.
- Laughter sounds only in happy families. Spend time cheerfully: watch comedies, in conversation remember jokes and funny cases, communicate as friends. If all your conversations relate only to everyday life - get rid of it, start conversations about values and interests.
- Tactile contact. Strive to constantly touch each other. Kiss before leaving and on your return, hug while watching TV. These are trifles that really bring together.
- Avoid prolonged quarrels. This does not mean that you need to indulge everything in half. Just find a constructive way out of the situation - do not sulk in the week, and sit down and calmly discuss how to get out of this situation, find a compromise.
Many people think that a happy second marriage is more likely than a happy first, but this applies only to those unions that were concluded by youth, stupidity or pregnancy - that is, without a preliminary assessment of compatibility and other important qualities.
How to become happy in marriage?
If you see that marriage does not suit you, it's possible that it's about your attitude towards it, not other problems. Start with the analysis, taking the paper and pen:
- What specifically does not suit you in marriage?
- How can you change this?
- How long will it take for this time?
For example, you do not like that the husband is sitting in front of the TV or computer all day. In order to change this and attract him to a joint pastime, you need to offer him an interesting alternative: to watch a movie, take a walk, go to a theater or a movie, go to a party, etc. Time for this is almost not required, and it can be applied almost on any evening, when there is such a desire. The problem is solved. Similarly, you can solve most of the problems in marriage, which are generally amenable to solution.