For a short answer "I agree", there can be a variety of reasons. Some of them are far from romantic, however this does not mean that pragmatic reasons for marriage are a bad foundation for a strong family. And some almost guarantee the failure of the event called "creating a new social unit". No wonder there is a diagnosis of motives for marriage, according to which, one can try to predict the chances of "they lived happily ever after." Think about which of the following is closer to your story:
- love. This is a textbook motivation for marriage, the one that most of us have dreamed of since childhood. We want to be close to the subject of our passion and adoration. Many women believe that marriage is a way to carry their feelings through the years;
- idealization of marriage. Some of us believe that only life in a marriage can be called worthy and complete. And only this way a full-fledged pair can look. In these cases, a woman can not find peace until she is sure that her relationship is legal and held in heaven;
- social stereotypes. This motif for marriage is quite closely related to the previous one. Especially if one of the couple was brought up in a family where the marriage was idealized and was considered the main goal of the relationship. Age, as a rule, only pours oil on the fire;
- attainment. In particular, this motive is relevant for women, because marriage is quite an occasion to boast to others;
- escape from loneliness. Unfortunately, many of us do not feel self-sufficient and see marriage as a salvation from the prospect of loneliness. Meanwhile, the presence of a stamp in the passport can not guarantee that the family hearth will warm up in those moments when a sense of loneliness rushes in;
- flight from parents. A frequent scenario of early marriages. Here the impulse is the desire to dispose of one's own
life; - forced marriage. Unplanned pregnancy, as a rule, is a common cause of such marriages;
- marriage of convenience. Striving for financial independence, moving to another country, obtaining citizenship - all this can be attributed to marriage by calculation. If both sides realize the main goal of legitimizing relations, then sometimes such a union gives a fairly strong relationship.
Whatever motive leads you to the engagement, do not be afraid to analyze it in advance, so as not to engage in self-deception.