In most modern women, marriage with a man who is much younger than herself causes dual feelings. On the one hand, a woman's self-esteem rises - not everyone is able to evoke strong feelings in a young man. On the other hand, there is often a feeling of hopelessness of such a union. Before deciding to marry, every fair sex representative should know what pitfalls to expect in a situation if the husband is younger than his wife.
Advantages and disadvantages of such relations
Almost in all spheres of life (and especially only having entered into an unequal marriage), the young man behaves differently than his more mature husband expects. Depending on the difference in age, the couple can get used to each other and adopt the habits of each other, but quite often, with some age characteristics of the husband, it becomes very difficult for a woman to put up.
- Sex. Basically, if the husband is younger than his wife, then in this area of life, the spouses do not have any problems. Psychologists and physiologists assert that the peak of female sexuality falls on 30-32 years, and the male - for 19-21 years. With a difference in the age of 8-12 years, the desires of the spouses coincide, and full-fledged sex has the same significance for them.
- Home life. To achieve harmony in daily life, if a man is much younger than a woman, it is quite difficult. In most cases, household roles are distributed as follows: the wife feels like a mother, and the husband is a son. If both a man and a woman, a similar role suits, then we can assume that they are very lucky. Often, when both spouses work, the wife has no inclination to scrupulously manage the household, and she begins to demand help from her husband. Also, a huge role in this matter is played by upbringing, character, temperament and much more.
- The material question. If a man is much younger than a woman, it often happens that his income is less than his wife's income. This situation the woman must first identify and understand whether she is ready to accept it. Naturally, no one of the fair sex is not going to tolerate gigolo. But in practice, most women are unprepared for the temporary financial difficulties of the young husband, especially if he is a student.
- Public opinion. Unequal marriages, in which the young husband is much younger than his wife, always caused a lot of gossip. Having decided on such an alliance, a woman should understand that conversations behind her back, even among her good acquaintances, can not be avoided. In practice, if the relationship between a mature woman and a young man is strong, all discussions quickly come to naught.
- The children's question. If a man is 10 years younger than a woman, their views on children vary considerably. Late pregnancy, according to doctors, is risky for a woman, so the issue of the birth of a child needs to be solved as early as possible. Therefore, if in an unequal marriage the young husband is not yet ready to take responsibility and become a father, one should not expect that his opinion will change in a few months.
- Psychology. Most women are extraordinarily flattered by the fact that the husband is younger than his wife. This factor is a strong incentive to monitor yourself and pay more attention to appearance. Women are not ashamed to speak in the circle of acquaintances and strangers "My husband is younger than me". Nevertheless,
Over time, the feeling of pride is replaced by uncertainty and sadness. Many women are afraid, as if their husband did not go to a young mistress. And such fears, as you know, do not have a very good impact on mental equilibrium and relationships with the young husband.
In modern society, the union of an adult woman and a young man is not uncommon. But any reasonable person of the fair sex should remember that in addition to loving a young man for a strong marriage, many more things are needed. When a husband is younger than 5 years old, do not worry much. But if the difference in age is more significant, then it is necessary to think everything over before deciding to marry.