Trainings are useful for many people, because they help to get the right attitude, get rid of doubts and start moving forward. However, not all of the coaching tips are safe.
Recently, personal growth trainings are very popular, where they teach people to reveal their potential, not to be afraid to cope with different problems and become successful. In practice, everything looks a little different, because there are many scammers who deceive people, and their recommendations are dangerous for the mental health of clients. We offer to consider in detail the most popular advice that coaches of personal growth impose.
1. Work on self-esteem
Psychologists agree with coaches that you need to work on your self-esteem, only the second often forget to add one detail - do not engage in self-deception and soberly assess their abilities.
In fact: At trainings, there is some suggestion of belief in your own super abilities. This, to some extent, inspires, but then often ends in failure. The conclusion is simple - self-esteem should be adequate.
2. It is impossible to achieve success without willpower
The principle that is actively promoted in training - any problem can be solved if there is willpower. It is important not to drop your hand and fight in the barrier until it is overcome.
In fact: This advice is useful, but only with one caveat: often there are situations where the struggle will never yield results. Sometimes it is enough to accept the current situation, draw conclusions and start moving on. It will not be superfluous to recall such folk wisdom, the truthfulness of which was appreciated by a huge number of people - the clever one will not go uphill, the smart mountain will bypass.
3. Think like a rich man
This advice even sounds strange: "think how the millionaires and life will change."
In fact: In the end, a person begins to imitate someone, forgetting about his real and individual history. In addition, show at least two millionaires who have traveled the same path and think alike. The essence of success is to be yourself and find your own way.
4. Use visualization
One of the most popular advice that coaches give on personal growth courses is to present your desire, as if it is already real. For example, if a person dreams of a car, he must visualize the situation as he buys it, or goes driving. Do this as often as possible, and all the details should be presented in the smallest detail.
In fact: As a result, a person moves away from reality into dreams, which turn into an obsession. Visualization is good, but only if reinforced by its actions. Even a small step on the way to your dream will be more effective than just dreaming, lying on the couch.
5. To change is easy and simple
The coach inspires you that any person can easily change if he wants.
Actually: Hearing at the training that it's easy to change, it's better not to go to it anymore. This is explained by the fact that no positive change is given simply and is the result of increased work on oneself. The number of changes is proportional to the size of the victim. For example, if you want to make good money, then you will have to give up many entertainments and partly from rest to work harder. Just think, would the coach have such a large audience if he openly said that to change life you will have to give up your usual and favorite things and work hard? This is a frank deception.
6. The whole world at your feet
Most of the trainings are designed to inspire the participants that they have great potential for achieving any goal and conquering the world. For this, they cite the stories of different successful people as an example.
In fact: In this case, no one tells, but whether this way will bring pleasure and whether he will give a happy feeling. Do not try to conquer the world, it's enough to make yourself and your loved ones happy.
7. Choose high goals
If you do not want to graze the rear, then set the maximum goals for yourself, thanks to this there will not be time to stop.
In fact: Such advice can cause a person to drop their hands and do not want to do anything at all, since it is important to feel the taste of victory and success. The right decision - set yourself realistic goals. In addition, it is recommended to understand whether the desired will make you a happy person, or it is simply imposed by other people's plans.
8. Everyone controls his life
The speech of many coaches begins with the fact that a person himself determines what will happen in his life, and this applies not only to actions, but also to circumstances. Any other position coaches consider weak and justification of their insolvency.
In fact: Responsibility is an important thing, but it can not be dismissed that sometimes circumstances are not quite the way you want and it does not depend on a person. It is important to learn to adjust to the circumstances, rather than blame yourself, that the situation turned unexpected.
9. Surround yourself with successful people
Trainers sometimes insist that they listen only to people who have reached certain heights in life and can become a good example.
In fact: As a result, a person develops a certain consumer attitude towards others. Relationships can not be built on self-interest, the main thing is mutual understanding and support, and not status. In the work you can act on this advice of the coacher, but not for life as a whole.
10. Continually move upwards
Another common advice that can be heard from coaches - imagine your life as a ladder to the top leading to a better and happier life.
In fact: It is, of course, a wonderful motivation, only there is one "but" - life is unpredictable and no one can say with certainty what will happen tomorrow. Moving to your goal is good, but success is impossible without failures and falls, which are an excellent motivator to get up, draw the right conclusions and continue moving.
11. Live on the positive
The trainers often hear the phrase that successful people are always happy, that is why artificially created in the lessons is an enthusiastic atmosphere and visitors try to keep it in their usual life.
In fact: It is unrealistic to live always only on the positive, because, without experiencing negative emotions, it is impossible to understand where the very happiness is. Allow yourself to live real, not artificially imposed feelings.
12. Leave the comfort zone
Practically every article, book and training, designed to change life for the better, you can find this advice. Its essence is very simple: when a person finds himself in stressful and unusual situations for him, he begins to reveal new aspects of character and talent, which becomes a springboard for achieving the goal.
In fact: Psychologists say that this is a good advice, only if it is slightly modified, adding that you need to periodically return to the comfort zone, where a person feels safe and can rest. Otherwise, psychological health may suffer.