You look great and feel good. You have a lot of talents, a wonderful and beloved work. Everything in your life is good, and life seems to have taken place. But there is one BUT. You are lonely, and in your head the motive is motivated by only one thought: why do I not like anyone, nobody understands me, nobody interests me? A whole set of complaints about life and no light and a way out of the situation. With such a misfortune, millions of people today are confronted. What happens to modern people and what mistakes do they commit, dooming themselves to loneliness?
Why does no one understand me?
Practically in any company, whether friends or colleagues necessarily will find a loner who has not married in comparison with the rest, has not found a couple, and if this is a girl, then she is not married, etc. To all questions why such a thing happens, these people are used to respond with duty phrases like: "Nobody will love me" or "I do not like anyone". But they themselves are hardly aware of the real reasons that they are still alone. At a reception at psychologists such patients appear daily. "No one is talking to me, no one will stop ... No one notices me, Doctor, why do not I need anyone?", They complain. And the doctor smiles sadly and asks each of the single people to turn to their childhood. It is from there that the feet grow in this problem. Fear of love, an example of uneasy parental relations, childish grievances, isolation, etc. - all this imposes an imprint on the personality, which can sometimes become a real hallmark of loneliness. Ask some of the successful and rich people why they are alone. And many of them honestly admit: "No one has ever loved me." And it's not about others, but about the person. And to solve this problem to him quite by force. Some tips will help dot the I and understand yourself:
- Asking the question "why no one likes me" it is important first of all to turn to yourself and ask "And who exactly do I love?". Is there a person in your life who you love for something or simply because he is. If you do not fear love and deny it, then it will return to you in return. The main thing is to believe that you can love.
- Very often people close in their small inner world due to the fact that they are haunted by the fear of being abandoned, forgotten or betrayed. For this reason, we often do not notice that someone is giving us signs of attention.
- Another frequent cause of failure in the relationship is an inflated level of claims to the partner and idealization. For this reason, by the way most of today's marriages are collapsing. The level of expectations of partners from each other does not correspond to reality. And when the blinders of love in the process of cohabitation begin to subside, then the real relationship with those that would like people almost do not match. To get rid of this problem, you need to stop idealizing your relationship and "go down to Earth." In other words, get used to the idea that the ideal person you drew in your imagination will never meet you, because he does not exist.
- And finally, the last reason why people can not find their second half is self-doubt. How can you expect love from a stranger,
If you do not feel this feeling for yourself? As the saying goes: "If you want to change the world - start with yourself." Find yourself a hobby, walk more often and change the situation, change the image, go in for sports. The options for how to stir yourself up and get rid of depression today are a great many. Your main task is to love yourself, the world around you and all its phenomena.
Radiating joy and confidence, you will surely attract new and interesting people to your life. And along with them, a cherished feeling will come to you.