Perhaps, there is not much where there is so much one anal sex, as in the works of the notorious Marquis de Sade. To all "altars" he preferred the anus. Perhaps the delight of what the word "sadism" came from was the cause of the fears of this kind of sex, which was closely intertwined with the creepy stories of his perverted novels. However, the fact that many loving couples find pleasure in anal intercourse often fuels curiosity in those who have never tried to use the anus inappropriately.
Preparing the girl for the first anal sex
As in the case of vaginal, the first anal sex requires a careful approach, since a negative first impression can forever repel the desire for anal pleasures.
1. Psychological. Do not start the moral preparation with viewing porn films. Yes, there you will certainly see how the actresses easily accept a partner's combat weapon from the "black entrance". And even managed to reach the peak of bliss in a matter of seconds. Behind the scenes there is preparation, because before shooting each anal episode girls are massaged with a sphincter using a large amount of lubricant.
The correct psychological preparation of a woman for anal sex should begin with an analysis of fears. So, what are the most feared anal virgins:
- uncleanliness. Many girls tremble at the thought that they will stay on the lover's penis after he has performed the "dirty work". To overcome this fear, you just need to go a little deeper into the anatomy. The point is that the rectum does not begin immediately after the ring of the external sphincter. You have another 12-15 cm of inner sphincter - it is enough to absorb most of the male dignity. It is these muscles and answer the question, why anal sex is so pleasing to men. Their natural purpose is to keep feces in case of need. If we are not convinced, the first time you can use a cleansing enema. However, turning this procedure into a mandatory preparation before each anal sex (especially if you will often practice it) is not worth it - there is a great risk of injuring the sphincter or disrupting the intestinal microflora;
- changes in relation to men. Some are afraid that sodomy will turn them in the eyes of a man into a dissolute mistress, which can be treated very rudely. In fact, anal sex requires partners to maximize tenderness and trust. Once again, erase from the memory images of porn films, a man should not "hack" you, his pleasure lies in a strong contraction of the penis and mobility of the sphincter muscles. It is possible that new sensations will draw you closer and fill with greater tenderness towards each other;
- pain. How a girl can prepare for anal sex, if it literally reduces the thought of pain, you think. And you will be wrong. Painful sensations indicate that something is going wrong in the process. Like any sex, the anal should bring pleasure , and to both partners.
Eliminating such fears, you can proceed to the next stage - preparing the anus for anal sex.
2. Physical. The best way to prepare a sphincter for taking a member is to relax. Having coped with the psychological side, go to the massaging of the anus:
- for the first time you can play with him alone, relaxing and listening to your sensations . At this point, you can use special (!) Toys to get rid of the fear of painful sensations;
- In the future, provide this procedure to your partner. Let him caress your anus with his fingers, after moistening them with saliva or with your grease. If this is not enough, always store a tube with petroleum jelly or lubricant on the bedside table. Remember: the anus must be moistened and softened!
- quite allowed to caress the tongue. Practitioners anilingus couples always enthusiastically respond to these refined caresses. If your man does not mind - trust him completely;
- when you are relaxed enough, ask the partner to enter your finger in the anus. Let it be the little finger. Remember that in the anus are more in demand circular movements, rather than strong frictions. Continue this part of the training until you can easily take the thumb of the partner;
- The previous stages can take more than one evening, this is normal.
When you yourself want to feel an elastic member in the back passage, when this thought will lead you and take possession of your consciousness, only then it is necessary to pass to anal sex. How to properly prepare a woman for anal sex, you already know, so once again, make sure you have the right components: Vaseline
Preparation of a man for anal sex should be reduced to a clear instruction. Do not be afraid to describe your desires and agree on the sign that you will apply if you decide to go back on track.