Love - you are sung by poets. Your essence has been tried for centuries by the greatest philosophers. Psychologists are ready to stir up the very depths of the subconscious and dissect the mind under a microscope, just to unravel your nature. Someone thinks that you are a heavenly gift, someone calls you art, for someone you are a disease, but for someone you simply do not exist.
But let's leave the philosophical categories for now, let's return to the sinful earth, and try to understand what it is - love, and how it manifests itself.
How to understand - love it, or just a habit?
Quite often you can hear that over time, any, even the most passionate relationships lose their novelty, and love gradually disappears, leaving behind, at best, affection and mutual respect, and at worst it's just a habit to be together. Rational grain in this statement, of course, is, but, perhaps, it is too categorical. Of course, after many years spent together it is difficult to expect from the relationship of the same storm of passion as in the first months of acquaintance. A person gets used to everything, both good and bad, and loses that novelty of sensations, which so circled the head at the beginning of the novel (by the way, if we talk about the biochemistry of the human body, there is an addiction to oxytocin, a substance that causes affection, and is responsible for good mood). But years do not always ruin love. Often they translate it into another quality: and out of a fervent romantic affection a real deep feeling, though not so bright, but capable of warming our lives with our warmth for many years, grows.
This feeling is difficult to confuse with the habit, but the routine of everyday affairs or prolonged depression may well raise doubts about its authenticity. In order to understand whether this is love, just imagine how you will feel if you once wake up and find that the one who walked with you through life disappeared forever. If the answer is - well, thank God, it seems like anew born, then maybe you really are connected with something that has little to do with love. However, it is better not to hack in the heat, but to visit a family psychologist - perhaps not everything is lost.
How to understand that this is true love?
Above it was a question of "experienced" couples, but the question of the nature of the feelings that have flared up, sometimes visits those whose relations began only recently. In this case, this is just an alarming call - since such doubts rarely arise in relations at an early stage. Just a period of romantic love does not leave time for self-interest. Although, it is possible and such an option that, the more you recognize a person, the more you begin to love him. One way or another, it is worth waiting for the further development of events, and if the doubts will only increase, most likely, it is not the person who is needed.