Love is the main feeling on Earth. From him begins all life in the universe and continues to exist due to this feeling. So it was always. And at the same time, a person has always sought an accurate definition of what it means to love? Who is a loving person and how should he behave? What evidence of love exists? How to understand that you love? These questions we will try to give at least an approximate answer.
What does it mean to love a person?
At all times a person needed constant proof that he was loved and someone needed him. As a result, many signs and immutable truths appeared on the light, the presence of which indicates that a person loves or is loved. Many of these truths remain unchanged for many centuries. We give an example of only some of them:
- To love is to forgive. Everyone has the right to make a mistake. And no one is able to find so many excuses for the guilty, like the one who loves him. This is one of the great virtues - love does not see evil.
- To love means to stop comparing. A real feeling can only be to one person. If, in a relationship, one of the partners compares the other with those who have had it before, then the sincerity of his feelings will have to be doubted.
- To fall in love is not to love. This is about the feeling of falling in love - short, passionate and blind. This feeling is not real love. If the first platonic affection turns into a long-term serious relationship, then only in this case one can speak of true love.
- To love is to believe. One of the most relevant truths for many modern couples. It means having trust between a couple in love. The same that to love means to trust. Only on mutual trust each other real strong relationships are built. Faith in a partner is the pivot on which families live for centuries.
- Changes - then does not like. A common, and often erroneous, opinion. In many families, betrayals are not due to lack of love. Most often, spouses decide on betrayal for the sake of new sensations and satisfaction of the need to be necessary, to appear young, etc. Most of those who decided to change their second half, argue that sex and love are two different things. What is characteristic is that most of them are men.
- Love is in spite of. What it means to love in spite of, many know firsthand. Each person has a certain set of advantages and almost twice as many shortcomings. True love does not pay attention to the negative aspects of the person. It is usually said that a person is not loved for some of his virtues, but in spite of his shortcomings. Those. love the way it is, without embellishments and illusions.
For each person, with his individual view of the world, upbringing and character, there is his own idea of what it means to truly love and what it means to be able to love. One of the American scientists has compiled a list of several steps that, in his opinion, should lead to true and pure love in relations:
- the purpose of any relationship is to smooth and cure all childhood trauma and heal all grievances;
- in relations there should be no
illusions. A person should be perceived as he is without undue expectations; - Relationships need to work and improve them every day;
- in any relationship with a person it is important to understand that his interests and needs are as important as ours. Also, do not forget to tell your partner about your own interests and needs;
- before projecting your feelings and thoughts on a person, it is important to understand yourself and try to protect your lover from your shortcomings.
In any relationship, it is worth remembering that love is primarily a voluntary sacrifice. And everyone decides for the sake of what he is doing it, and whether the person who is next to that time and forces who are going to revive the true feelings is worth it.