Each parent will tell you that in the second year of his life, his child was replaced. The kid begins to be capricious over trifles, throwing toys, arranging "theatrical productions" on the street. During this period the child does not listen at all and many start writing off this for spoiling , looking for the guilty. Let's see why the child does not obey his mother, and whether she really is to blame for this.
Why does the child not obey?
Not always a child in 2 years does not obey his will. The onset of a disease or an unfavorable atmosphere in a home sometimes affects the child's psychological state. Remember that the nervous system of the two-year plan can not yet react for a long time. Because you do not persuade him to sit quietly or concentrate more than five minutes. And excessive pressure can provoke behavioral disorders and the child can become irritable. Before you decide to make the child obey, be patient and do not press, this will only complicate the situation.
As a rule, "the system fails" in two cases: the kid is forced to do things that he does not like, or forbid certain things. It is perfectly normal that a child does not listen for 2 years and tries to protest. The fact is that at this stage he already became acquainted with the word "no" and learns to apply it independently.
The second reason that a small child does not obey, often there are differences in the education of parents and grandmothers. Mom and Dad try to observe strictness, and grandfathers and grandmothers allow everything. And just at the age of two, the crumb already clearly understands the situation and begins to use it.
How to make the child obey?
Under the word "force" it is necessary to understand the rules of behavior of the parents themselves, but not the methods of pressure on the baby. How to behave if the child does not obey in 2 years?
- To begin with, you should accurately determine the reasons why the child does not obey. If he is healthy and at home "good weather", then start looking for the right approach. First, give him the opportunity to stop his vagaries on his own. Usually, for the second to third time after the conversation, the children gradually begin to obey.
- If you have promised a certain punishment, it is necessary to fulfill it. But it should be done calmly, explaining the reason to the child. Discuss with him in the end his behavior and the consequences to which it led. Even the most disobedient children after a while cease to test adults for strength, if they know in advance about the outcome.
- It happens that the child does not obey in the kindergarten. Here are two options for the development of events. You have to understand that for crumbs this is stress and the period of adaptation, so that whims and protests in the first couple are quite normal. Worse, if the teacher can not find an approach to your child. In this situation, you must constantly monitor the process and at home gently unobtrusively try to learn from the baby his vision of the situation.