Appearing in the light, all children behave almost identically: they sleep, eat, sometimes cry. But in the first months after birth, they begin to show character, because everyone has his own. Plugged by nature and genes, its qualities are most clearly manifested in times of crisis and in adolescence. Many children at this time become very naughty, behave arbitrarily. Let's find out what to do if the child becomes uncontrollable, behaves aggressively and does not react at all to the remarks of the elders. And to begin with we will find out why children do not obey their parents.
Causes of disobedience
- In the process of development and formation of the personality, several particularly complex, so-called crisis periods are singled out, when the child feels as if the strength of his loved ones. Nevertheless, this time is difficult primarily for the baby, because sometimes he himself is not able to understand the true causes of their actions. The child thus comprehends the world, learns how to do it, and how it is impossible and why. And parents should approach this process with understanding, explaining each step to the obstinate toddler.
- If you have a child, then you should understand that since birth it is a separate person, with your thoughts and desires, and therefore has the right to act as you want. And you, the parents, should just correct his behavior if any actions are dangerous for him or for others, and in no case try to make him obedient, controlled robot.
- Also, disobedience can be the result of improper education (when the child is allowed too much or, conversely, everything is banned) or problems in the family (frequent quarrels between parents, etc.).
What if the child is uncontrollable?
1. If a child does what he wants, regardless of the protests of his parents, it is an occasion to reconsider his views on upbringing and, possibly, change his behavior. Do not you shout too much at the child? Do you pay enough attention to him?
2. Develop your tactics of behavior:
- Do not react to the hysterics and provocations of the child;
- try to remain calm regardless of his behavior;
- set limits (what a child can do and what not), and stick to them clearly.
3. In disputes and conflicts with your son or daughter, never go ahead with your authority: by this you can break the fragile confidence of the child, and then it will be even more difficult to establish a relationship. Instead, find compromises, negotiate with the child, distract him. Treat him kindly, with tenderness and love. This is the best way to make a child open to communication again.
4. In cases when the child behaves badly due to some psychological problems, do not neglect the visit to the doctor. A specialist will help you cope with this issue and restore family peace.