How to raise the first child as if he is already the third.
Newly-minted parents are, by definition, ignorant. They read a lot of literature, consult with relatives and other parents, and in general, worry about every little thing. With the second child, already experienced moms and dads learn to smooth the corners so that life with two small thieves does not turn into hell. But to the third and fourth child, control becomes extremely accurate and extremely effective.
Ask any parent with many children-in the life of each of them there was a story that might frighten a less experienced person. For example, one day a friend of mine, picking up the older children in the kindergarten, left the baby on the kitchen table. Luckily, when the frightened dad ran to the table, the tightly swaddled baby lay in the same place. So, according to statistics, the third and fourth children in the family are best suited to the harsh realities of life.
Let's observe how the attitude of parents towards the same problem changes with the appearance of new children.
Sleep
Pervenets: Find out all the methods of putting the baby in the nature. Consult with the pediatrician. Strictly observe the regime and use the radio-nurse.
Second child: It does not matter when, most importantly, not to disturb the elder's sensitive sleep.
Child # 3: Will fall asleep when tired.
Soothers
First-born: > Thoroughly wash the pacifiers with warm water and soap every time it falls to the floor.
Second child: Lick the fallen pacifier for disinfection. As new!
Child # 3: Dirt forms immunity, right?
Bedtime
Pervenets: At 7:00 in the evening.
Second child: 30 minutes after the elder.
Child # 3: When he is ready for bed (read: when you have to).
Food
First-born: Use only home-made products bought from trusted friends or brought by relatives from the dacha. Rinse thoroughly and clean them before cooking. No puree from jars!
Second child: Ready-made baby food from the store.
Child number 3: Interestingly, in 2 months you can already feed your baby with Oreo cookies?
clothing
Pervenets: Only the best quality clothes and shoes made of natural materials.
The second child: The clothes from which the older child grew up.
Child # 3: He likes to walk in pajamas!
Toys
Pervenets: Developing toys made of natural wood.
The second child: Plastic toys are not as bad as they are talked about!
Child number 3: The main thing is that no one is crippled.
Books
Pervenets: Complete collection of the series "The first books of the baby."
Second child: The same books that remain from the older one will fit.
Child # 3: Honored in school!
Music
Pervenets: Classical, still in the womb.
Second child: Special children's songs.
Child number 3: He loves Beyonce!
Choosing a school
Pervenets: School of early development, to teach a child to read earlier than to walk. Kindergarten with Montessori group. From high school, it is compulsory to attend a gymnasium or a lyceum.
Second child: School at the place of residence is no worse than all the rest.
Child number 3: To lead a child to finger drawing is a waste of money.
Homework
Pervenets: We need an ideal balance between "helping" and "doing his job."
The second child: "Ask your older sister."
Child # 3: If you do not want to learn, these are your problems.