Around the first sexual experience there are always a lot of rumors and misunderstandings, many expect him to have some kind of supernatural sensations, but fewer people are afraid that during the first sex everything will go wrong. Fears are justified - the unsuccessful first sexual experience of a guy or a girl can cause subsequent failures in an intimate life. Let's figure out how to avoid such trouble.
The first sexual experience of a girl
Often, girls lose their virginity not because of a real desire, but simply under the influence of some stereotypes or under the pressure of their partner. Do not do this because the girl should be ready for this step, both emotionally and physiologically. As for the last point, the ideal age for the first sex is 17-18 years. And it's not about hypocrisy or obsolete standards, this age is named because it's when the girl's body is finished. Earlier contact is fraught with infection and various complications.
Emotional readiness is required for the formation of a positive attitude towards sex in general, since with the unsuccessful first experience, various negative consequences can be formed-fear of intimate life, vaginismus , frigidity. Also, a comfortable state of the girl will help to avoid pain (or reduce them) during the rupture of the hymen. Therefore, it is important that the partner was attentive and acted without rudeness, and the situation was familiar. Some use "services" of alcohol for relaxation, it is possible to do so, but only if it is a little, no more glass of wine, otherwise the effect will be completely different from what is required. Also, the reduction of pain will be facilitated by the choice of the right posture, for the first sexual contact, the position on the back, with a pillow or a folded blanket placed under the sacrum, is ideal.
Another very important point is the issue of unwanted pregnancy. For some reason, among the young girls there is a myth that "for the first time nothing will happen," which is completely unfounded. Therefore, it is not necessary to forget about contraception, except that it will also protect against venereal diseases.
The first sexual experience of a guy
It is generally accepted that the first sex is a very important step in the life of a girl, but that this event is extremely exciting for a guy, everyone forgets. Almost every guy in the subconscious mind keeps the idea that he should not just be "on top", so also be better than the other men that the girl had. Excessively concerned about this problem, some guys suffer from excitement and can not achieve their goal in any way. If this is repeated, the syndrome of expectation of sexual failure may develop, which only a psychotherapist will be able to cope with. Therefore, you need to focus less on the possibility of failure, and the girl must show tact, because careless observation can significantly aggravate
Often because of overexcitation, ejaculation occurs earlier than a guy will have time to insert a penis. In this, too, there is nothing unusual, real contact can happen far from the first time. If nothing works, then you should calm down, switch to something else, and then it's the girl's turn to help with the erection.
That the guy that the girl does not need to be sure that the first time will surely be a real pleasure, many begin to enjoy the coition for the second or third time. There is nothing abnormal in this, just the brain does not yet know how to react to what is happening.