The nature of the relationship between parents and children is the point of emotional and physical development of the child, the formation of his personality. Often, adults raise children, relying on their own experience, childhood memories and intuition, which is not entirely true. The fact is that the mistakenly chosen style of family education can have the most unpredictable consequences.
What determines the characteristics of family education?
Very often, raising a child becomes a real problem for parents. Numerous prohibitions or permissiveness, encouragement or punishment, excessive guardianship or connivance - these and other controversial points seldom find common ground or lead to the lack of a single principle of family upbringing. And in the first place children suffer from such "politics".
Undoubtedly, the methods of education are influenced by the characteristics of the relationship between adults, the experience and family traditions of previous generations, and many other factors. And, unfortunately, not all parents understand that their behavior in the future can cause irreparable harm to the child's mental health, and also significantly complicate his life in society.
Psychologists and teachers distinguish four basic forms of family education, each of which has its supporters.
What methods of family education exist?
From the point of view of psychology, the most acceptable style of family education is democratic . Such relations are based on mutual trust and understanding. Parents try to listen to the requests and wishes of the baby, while encouraging responsibility and independence.
In such families, in the priority of common values and interests, family traditions, emotional need for each other.
It is more difficult for children in families with an authoritarian method of influence . In this case, adults do not try to argue their requests, or rather requirements and prohibitions. In their opinion, the child must unconditionally obey their will, and otherwise severe reprimand or physical punishment will follow. Authoritarian behavior rarely contributes to the formation of close and trusting relationships. Even at the older age of such children there is a feeling of fear or guilt, a constant sense of external control. But if the child can get rid of the oppressive state, his behavior can become antisocial. There are cases when, unable to withstand constant pressure from dictator parents, children committed suicide.
Admirable style of education is the other extreme, where there are practically no restrictions and prohibitions. Very often, a conniving attitude is caused by the inability or unwillingness of parents to establish certain rules of conduct. Such a principle of upbringing can be regarded by the child as indifference and indifference on the part of adults. In the future, this will lead to the formation of an irresponsible person, unable to take into account the feelings and interests of others.
Numerous shortcomings and consequences have also a hyperope . In such families, parents unconditionally fulfill all the whims of their child, while there are no rules and restrictions for it. The result of this behavior is an egocentric and emotionally immature personality, unadapted to life in society.
A common mistake of family upbringing is the lack of a unified policy, when the rules and requirements for mom and dad are different, or depend on the mood, the well-being of parents.