Violence does not always inflict physical harm to us, and bodily harm is not always the worst kind of violence. Psychological violence leads to psychological trauma, and she, to the undermined self-confidence. As a result, society receives an inferior link, and you (that is, a link) are deprived of a full-fledged social life.
The consequence of psychological abuse may be depression , stress, fear, post-traumatic stress disorder, and maybe physical violence (usually one generates another). In any case, remember: people who are psychological violators, almost 100% of the cases themselves once suffered from the emotional blows of others. These can be untreated children's grievances, teenage complexes that are carefully guarded, and then lead to revenge, violence, mockery, and even catastrophes. In the biography of each dictator (if you look good), you can find the moment when an absolutely normal person harbored the deepest insult, promising himself, to grow "powerful and strong" in order to take revenge on those who insulted him.
Types of psychological abuse
Emotional violence always manifests itself in different ways, individually. But if we collect all the cases together and draw conclusions, we get the following classification of the types of psychological violence:
- humiliation - condemn, criticize, ridicule, tease;
- domination - treat the victim as a child, remind that such behavior is unacceptable, control spending, all too often reminiscent of misses;
- put forward demands - the victim is treated not by name, and using nicknames, the rapist blames the victim for his failures and failures;
- ignoring - using the boycott as punishment;
- codependence - the victim becomes a "vest".
The most terrible kind of psychological and emotional violence is glazing. This term means that in the head the victim sows doubts about his own sanity. When a rapist is offended, and you are offended, he says that you are too sensitive. If a person repeats the same thing one time, he really doubts the adequacy of his perception. The main signs of glazing:
- you ask yourself if you are not too sensitive;
- you are afraid to make even the simplest choice;
- you are constantly apologizing;
- you are reviewing your opinion.
More often than not, signs of psychological violence are clearly visible in married couples, relationship boss-subordinate, among friends (friend "vest"), and also on a large scale - "power and people."
The hardest thing is to cope with psychological violence at home, when it comes to a person dear to you. The last thing you need to resort to is aggression , and the most favorable option is to focus not on how someone spoils your life, but how you (personally you) want to improve your relations.