"Do you know?", "Imagine!" - gossip colleagues during lunch and at any other time, not missing the opportunity to discuss the latest news. Before us is a dilemma - what is it, an idle talk, or is it time spent with benefit for yourself?
Incredible facts
Progressive scientists of the University of Indiana (USA) have proved that gossip, they are unauthorized judgments about people not present at the moment, have a very negative assessment in society. After all, it is never liked by rumor distributors, and most simply just avoid such individuals.
Believe me, in discussing someone else's personal life there are pluses, and the desire to wash someone's bones arises for certain reasons. Gossip means to share information, evaluate, often unreasonable, compare with someone, search for shortcomings. Maybe after a new look at the definition of this concept, will you change your attitude to gossip?
So, psychologists say that people, while discussing other people's problems, seem to try on themselves the behavior and situations of someone whom they are willing to discuss. At the same time, they are glad that these not very pleasant events did not happen with them, as a result, the realization of this, a comparison with their "best" position, makes them calmer.
The pros of this "hobby"
1. Calming . Scientists have proved that the transfer of information helps to calm down. When a person during a conversation learns something about the other, especially if this information is negative color, then his heart rate increases, the feeling of anxiety increases. Such a strange state is caused by the fact that you need to tell this something to someone else. It is also advantageous if the person does not want to talk much about himself, that's why he talks about someone else. Due to this, the discussion of an outsider makes your communication with the other person safe, because you discuss the topics that interest you, but do not touch your personal one.
2. The result of the revolution . Previously mentioned scientists have proved that gossips and discussions were directly related to evolution, as they helped cave people choose leaders, excluding deceivers and thieves. The Doctor of Sciences N. Emler suggested that it is gossip that distinguishes us from animals and they contributed to the formation of more organized groups among the ancient people. We receive new information precisely through rumors, often false, but, in any case, useful, if only for the sake of not making similar mistakes in our lives. The Social Issues Research Center provided some information: 33% of men and 26% of women gossip every day. The simple fact is that men call their gossip - a discussion, and women do not throw out words from the song and say as they are, "gossip."
3. Help a friend . Some social psychologists promote this view: in most cases, gossip is due to a certain desire to help. It's hard to believe, but it's true. By giving someone bad information about someone's identity, we instinctively want to protect this person. Now, the latter is armed with knowledge and, let's say, ready to resist the enemy. Here the main thing is already, so that this person is not accidentally misinformed.
Everyone knows that there are people who are themselves, almost a fount of gossip. They know everything and everyone, in the course of events and news, and most importantly - they know how to present information in the right color. Due to it, they become popular. But, believe me, those people who really have life full of fascinating events, colorful actions, realization, acquaintances, will never discuss someone else's private life. Because the desire to gossip
4. Strong motivation and establishment of friendly relations . Gossip motivates us to be better. We are afraid of suddenly being convicted, because of the coverings with gossip, the object motivates us not to be like that.
There is an opinion that gossip destroys friendship. But it turns out, no. Due to gossip, friendship can become even denser. Since, when discussing someone, people think that they are not like the ones and their thought unites them.
And now think, how often do you gossip? And how much? Now you know that this is still very useful!