Obeying other people's instructions is occasionally necessary for everyone, but permanent management is capable of driving people crazy. Especially this is unpleasant in the relationship, so the signs of a male manipulator, who may be a tyrant, it is desirable to discover in advance. Since in the long-term communication necessarily formed a relationship that does not allow just to interrupt the traumatic relationship.
Signs of the husband-manipulator
It is necessary to understand that manipulation is a hidden psychological effect, so the victim seems to be to blame for everything that happens. The main of the signs of a tyrant man and manipulator is his desire at first to find out the maximum about all the most uncomfortable moments. This is not done because of the desire to know the beloved better, but to get a map of its weaknesses, which then can be influenced. For example, relatives had problems with alcohol, at first the men will only sympathize. Then there will be warnings about a glass of champagne drunk by a girl on New Year's Eve, and then with friends there may be a statement about weakness to alcohol-containing drinks, although in fact she herself starts to bypass the shelf with alcohol because of panic fear to repeat the fate of relatives. This fear and will be supported by the manipulator in all possible ways, will end with the fact that she will call her husband a savior, and really believe that without him would become a drunkard.
For the manipulator it is important that all his whims are fulfilled, to achieve this, the most unsightly methods can be used. It often happens that a woman after the birth of a child sits at home more than the necessary leave, because the husband tells her about the need for caring for the child, and she needs to rest. The lady perceives this as the care of a loved one. But then she gets tired of spending all the time at home, she tries to get a job, the manipulator does not like it, and he tries not to let her get out of control. For this, stories can be used about the weakness of the child, the poor health of the woman herself or the arguments about her insolvency in the profession. Everything is done to reduce the partner's self-esteem and emphasize her insignificance. Hence follows another of the important signs of the husband-manipulator: the desire to subordinate to one's will, to make dependent (financially or emotionally).
There is an opinion that the manipulator is an imperious, calculating man. In fact, he is weak and unprincipled, he wants only one thing - power. And for its receipt, both work and family are used. The latter is more frequent, since it is there that the most vulnerable people are located. In order not to fall under the influence of such a person, be extremely attentive, look at how he presents the information: he wants to share or tries to benefit from the tearful history. Pay attention to his questions: sympathizes or utters duty phrases, trying to elicit more details. Take a closer look at his relationship with friends and acquaintances, the manipulator of all will try to bend under him, but if there are stronger competitors, he will have to take the servant's position because he can not communicate on an equal footing. When meeting with the parents of the chosen one, take a closer look at their communication , as children tend to copy the style of behavior of the elders.