People who like to teach others to live, believe that they have the right to do this, because they have a rich life experience behind their shoulders, they can give hundreds of examples of different situations and the correct behavior in them. But can such advice be effective?
Why do we need life experience?
On the one hand, the answer to this question lies on the surface, life experience is necessary for us so that we have the opportunity to gain knowledge, skills and skills. Do not remember what happens to us, that is, if we do not get this experience, we each time would have to learn how to walk anew, hold a spoon, etc. Life experience helps us not only to gain new knowledge, but also to remember our mistaken actions so that we do not have to repeat them again. Lack of experience is often a source of people's fear, in most cases, a fear of failure. In the event that a person has experience of performing any work, albeit insignificant, many tasks can be solved faster and easier than for people who have no skills of such work.
Thus, life experience is a powerful mechanism that allows us to adapt to the surrounding reality.
Is life experience always useful?
In spite of the fact that in many cases your life experience can be useful, it can be useful not always, and if it is a question of someone else's experience, we often simply can not perceive it. There are many examples where the mother, guided by her rich life experience, teaches her child what to do and what not. What in this case does the child do? Almost always goes against the words of the mother, sometimes out of a sense of contradiction, but more often because the experience of others, even in adulthood, is not always perceived, we all need to try it ourselves.
Having matured, we gain the ability to listen to the opinions of others, but to listen to other people's advice, that is, to take on the arsenal of someone else's life experience can only when we want it.
With our life experience, it's not so simple either - we need it, but sometimes we find ourselves trapped in it. Being in a similar life situation, it seems to us that everything will happen, as it was the last time, and therefore we act accordingly. The problem here is that absolutely identical situations do not exist, and looking at the world through the prism of the past, we lose the opportunity to see other solutions. So experience is a good thing, but you do not need to forget about life in the present.