Communication with people can be very interesting, but often it becomes a source of irritation, especially when the interlocutor begins to brazenly and impudently climb into personal life. What to do, how to protect yourself from other people's curiosity and not become a gossip hero?
Why are people curious?
Find someone who does not care about the lives of others is difficult, only someone prefers to be interested in the affairs of relatives and friends, and someone likes to "poke their nose" into the lives of public figures or colleagues. At once it is necessary to distinguish two concepts - curiosity and curiosity. In the first case, the person is unobtrusively interested in showing benevolence. But the curious try to get into the soul with a certain purpose. Let's try to figure out what these people are after.
Many people believe that people are curious to find out some compromising information that can then be used for their own elevation. Indeed, there are many such people, and in some places their habitats are the offices of companies and the business community as a whole, where many are ready for anything, just to take a place warmer. Another thing is that more often such careerists prefer to act wisely - they listen, instead of asking. All the necessary information is provided by the second largest group of curious people.
Other people are interested in the lives of famous people, neighbors, co-workers, relatives without any kind of back thought. The most striking example of such curious - grandmothers on the bench, they also scold the government or the girl from the neighboring porch not because they really want to change the situation in the country or wish good to their neighbor, they simply can not take their infinitely long days and evenings. Some people start to grow old ahead of schedule, they even think before their retirement that their lives are uninteresting and unremarkable, therefore they replace it with events from someone else's everyday life.
How to protect yourself from other people's curiosity?
Proceeding from the fact that most of the curious people are disappointed in their lives, one might think that they should be pitied. Perhaps some sympathy can be shown, but this does not mean that you do not need to take any steps to stop such unhealthy curiosity. These people knowingly, maybe, do not want you evil, but they inflict it. You spend your time and nerves on talking to them, you waste your energy on experiences, instead of directing it to work or communicating with those who warm your heart. Therefore do not hesitate to resist the importunate curious, for this there are several ways.
- The first and most obvious way is to tell the unpleasant person that your personal life does not concern him at all. But this can not always be done, because with many of these people it is necessary to somehow continue to co-exist and spoil the relationship completely, I do not want.
- Usually a person is very easy to get offended when he is so tired, so it would be nice not to communicate with people who are annoying you during extreme fatigue. Of course, avoiding them all the time will not work, so learn to stay away from what is happening, control your own emotions, cutting them in the bud. To help in this can now be such a popular thing as meditation . Even without a deep immersion in the origins of this practice, the right breathing can do wonders.
- If you go a little further, you can try the visualization technique - imagine that you are surrounded by a deep moat (stone wall, waterfall, flame), which closes you from prying eyes, preventing you from getting close to you curious. It is also possible, in dealing with an unpleasant person, to imagine that you are a completely gray, uninteresting figure.
- People who do not know us closely, usually glue us on the labels, which are distinguished from the others. Stop identifying yourself with this label, you are completely different. And if a person climbs into your soul, and then dissolves gossip, just do not pay attention to it - he has invented something for himself and boasts of his miserable fancies in front of others, well, is not it funny?
And most importantly, remember - none of the most ingenious tricks will work, if you start letting anyone into the temple of your heart. Of course, to isolate yourself and hate everyone, except for a couple of the closest people, is not worth it, but you do not need to open up completely before everyone either.