You together made plans for the future. They built their nest and, perhaps, already became a mom and a dad. Together they saw us off for decades. And suddenly, like a bolt from the blue: a husband reports that he loved another, and she, the other, turns out to be quite young.
The latter often hurts especially hard on our pride. It would seem that the very fact that the husband left the family seems to be important, but it seems to you that this circumstance makes his departure somehow quite indecent. You know in advance how behind your back will be gossiping about the fact that the husband did not just leave, but to the very young.
At such times, it is tempting to blame your age for everything. Like, the years have taken their toll, and the mirror pleases less. And you, as a woman, do not represent anything from yourself, because, so that someone does not talk about experience and Balzac's age, life showed that youth easily outweighed all other advantages gained over the years.
It is these thoughts that are the most damaging. Stop it. It's not at your age, more precisely, not only in it. Do not shift responsibility for what happened in your family. There are two options: maybe your husband really and truly loved another woman (why no one is insured), or in your relationship has long been some kind of crack, which gave a leak.
The husband did not just find a young man, he found something that he did not have:
- admiration. How often do we perceive the dignity of a husband as a matter of course. A man is important attention, and the one in whose eyes he has great authority, beckons him;
- attention. In everyday life, we often forget that not only children but also the husband require attention and care;
- sexual activity. No comments;
- your love for yourself. If you have long ago put an end to your appearance, then is it any wonder that her husband left to the young and beautiful. True love for oneself attracts other people like a magnet.
When a man does not have enough of the above, he is often overwhelmed by a middle-aged crisis, and he desperately tries to return to the circle of youth and fun. But then you and the family, in order to overcome all the life crises together.