How often happiness seems to us a visionary dream, for which we are chasing, for which we are fighting, and, having achieved, for some reason we are not satisfied. Why does happiness escape from a person and what is it in the end? This is what we will think about with you today.
"Man is created for happiness, like a bird for flight," - you probably know this phrase (VG Korolenko, "Paradox"). However, how much do we understand the meaning of these deep words? Think: all of us were originally created happy. And when you were little, for happiness you did not need any reasons. You needed reasons only to be unhappy. The first thing you need to understand once and for all: a person is born for happiness.
What happens is that, over time, we lose the ability to be happy for nothing?
Why do we fight for happiness?
And, the truth, what for to struggle for that is given to us from a birth? The happiness of other people often seems to us to be something very natural, while for our own we are looking for the cause. And we try to deserve happiness, promising it to ourselves, like a candy, for some achievements. It is not surprising that happiness and similar to a sweet - sweet, but quickly melts.
However, this happens because we are taught: to be happy, we need a reason. This installation is transmitted from generation to generation, and happiness gradually turns into a secret that we are trying to solve. So, what should a person have for happiness?
Secrets of Happiness
The first secret is that the joy of life hides not in happy moments, but in the very feeling of happiness. After all, as you already know, happiness is in the life of every person from birth. This does not mean that you should laugh when you are sad. No, real happiness sounds like music, and it can be background. A happy person has troubles, but they are only events against the background of a happy life. And tears - only beads strung on a solid thread - happiness.
The second secret: in happiness you can exercise. No wonder they say that the person is the smith of his own happiness, the creator of a good mood. Here are some tips:
- every day look for a reason for gratitude. It will always be found. Even for the beautiful morning outside the window you can thank. The more you feel the gratitude, the happier you feel;
- laugh and smile more often. For this, sometimes you do not need a reason at all. A smile can cause a good mood, just as a good mood causes a smile;
- Accept yourself. Avoid feelings of guilt, everything in the world is the result of your thoughts. Blaming yourself, you subconsciously seek punishment;
- confess yourself to love. Better in front of the mirror. What else is the happiness of man, if not in love. Only by loving yourself, you can share your love with others, because, you must agree, it is difficult to share something that you do not have;
- goodbye. First of all, forgive yourself and your past mistakes. Today you are older than yesterday, so be a wise parent, do not copy anger to something that no longer exists;
- wish good to others. Do it sincerely, and you will feel that you yourself become happier;
- trust your life. Do not treat everything from under
Do not look for a dirty trick. Otherwise, no happiness will fill your heart to the brim; - find yourself a hobby. It's great when you have a favorite pastime in your life. Devote yourself to his free time, rejoice at your success;
- take care of your body. This means: love it, but do not pick on it. Enjoy the daily self-care ritual. Think: even applying the cream can be a declaration of love to your skin. Any procedure made with love, will be more effective than the most expensive ingredients!
- just be. Yourself.