N-yes, human life on the one hand is quite long, after all, some people live up to 90 and up to 100 years. And on the other - in general, short, for example, crows and turtles and for 300 years live. And still she is something like the Trinity. In it, three significant events - birth, marriage and death. And, if the etiquette of the first two happy events is known to everyone, then how many behave at the funeral is not known to many. Let's pay attention today to this sad event and talk about the rules of behavior at the funeral.
How and with what mood to go to the funeral?
To begin with, many people in general, and ladies in particular, are very emotional about the death of relatives, friends and even unfamiliar people. And at the same time it is on our women's shoulders that all the basic work is done to prepare the deceased for burial, a wake-up, vigil at the coffin, support for particularly sensitive individuals and the like. Therefore, going to the funeral, it is important to adjust yourself to the correct behavior, and also stock up on handkerchiefs, validol, valerian and ammonia, so you will always have the most necessary things for an emergency. Well, for you most important in the behavior at the funeral should be patient peace, no matter what the events. So you and your nerve cells will be saved, and, perhaps, will be able to support and reassure the one who will need it.
How to dress for a funeral?
The dress code is another important moment of the mournful event. Of course, if, God forbid, someone in your family died, then the question of how to dress for a funeral will be the tenth thing for you. And everyone around will understand, support and not condemn. But if you go to a funeral for someone, then the appearance should correspond to the place and event. How should a woman dressed in this sad event be dressed? First, the color of clothing is more appropriate to choose a dark one. Not necessarily black, but at least close to mourning. Suitable brown, cherry, the color of wet asphalt, dark blue or purple. Secondly, the lady at the funeral should be sent in a dress or skirt. And do not forget to grab a headscarf or a wide scarf in the tone along with it. Perhaps the deceased will be burial or making any other funeral rite that corresponds to his faith. So, the trousers are out of place here. Third, minimize makeup and jewelry, and it is better to abandon them altogether. Judge for yourself, people have sorrow, but you are so beautiful, it's a mockery without words. Well, finally, a few words about shoes. Do not wear high-heeled shoes for funerals. Perhaps you will have to stay on your feet for a long time, then go to the cemetery, to a wake and, and for a long time to get to your own house. It is better to choose simple shoes on a stable flat soles for summer or similar boots or bots for the cold season. And one more tip - going to the funeral, dress not just the weather, but taking into account the trip to the cemetery. There it is always colder than in the city. This is especially felt in the winter.
How to behave at a funeral during a burial service or another funeral ceremony?
In modern society, if the deceased was Orthodox or Catholic, then before funeral burial. It happens either at home or in church. If the deceased was of some other faith, then an appropriate rite is performed on him, funeral prayers are read and ritual actions are performed. For example, at a Christian funeral service, you should stand around the coffin, holding lit candles in your hands. If you belong to the same faith as the deceased, participate in the rite with all. And if you relate yourself to another religion or do not believe in God at all, you can just stand quietly to avoid attracting someone's curious attention. In any case, try not to differ very much in your behavior from those present.
Rules of conduct at the funeral, to go or not to go to the cemetery
Everything here depends on how close you are to the deceased person. If this is your relative or a very good friend, having gone to the cemetery, leaving together with all the lumps of earth in the grave, you simply from the soul honor his bright memory. Well, if you were just at the funeral service, and you do not want to go to the cemetery, nobody has the right to force you to do it. Just try to disappear somehow poetic.
How to behave after a funeral?
After a funeral, there are usually wake ceremonies. Their main rules are, eating, remembering a buried relative or friend with kind words, remembering events from his life, or maybe praying for the repose of his soul. At wake-up, there should not be alcohol, abusive words, noise and jokes. After all, this is not a boon, and funerals and fun are not appropriate here. After the funeral, everyone can go home.
Here, perhaps, and all the main points, how to behave at a funeral. Remember them, and let your life and your loved ones be long.