Envy makes you feel bad. First you experience a rush of blood to the brain, it literally "boils" of anger, that someone has got what you do not have, you experience hatred, aggression, wish the other person evil, and only then feel the devastation, the decline of strength, disappointment. All this can be avoided, knowing how to deal with envy.
Working on ourselves
First of all, having felt the beginning of the origin of this pernicious feeling , one must learn to transform it into positive inclinations. Fighting jealousy is a way to extract something productive from this phenomenon.So, your friend bought a car and you, for some reason, think about it, perepihivayas in the subway at rush hour. You begin to "wind": they say, you are always lucky in life less than others, and this "twirl" is all in hand goes. Here you need to say to yourself "stop": just what you called a "vertical" of a person who is your friend, with whom you have many common memories. Ask yourself, do you need a car? Maybe you are right and that is not, and you do not know how to drive? And if you need a car, then why not step on the path to its achievement?
This is the only way how to defeat envy when it has already started. Either make the object of envy insignificant ("I do not need a car"), or direct my efforts to achieve the object of envy ("it's high time to find another job that will allow you to save up for a car").
Exercise to improve self-esteem
There are also ways how to eradicate envy, as a phenomenon, but this requires a lot of work on yourself. At the same time, remember, it's impossible to get rid of 100% of this feeling, because envy is a part of our human nature.
Repeat this kind of affirmations :
- "I am the way I am!";
- "I'm unique, and I love myself like that!";
- "This is my life, I do not want to compare it with anyone else!".
Think often about what you have. You will not be annoyed by raising a girlfriend if you are happy with your free schedule.
Think of those who do not have what you own. If you remember about a friend who is renting an apartment, you will not be angry with the one who bought a three-room, because you have your own personal 20 m², which your first friend does not have.
When you are jealous
At first glance, we are pleased with the fact that we are the object of envy. If you are jealous, then you have achieved what is beyond the power of others. But we are thinking about how to deal with the envy of others only when this negative aura around begins to really act destructively on our lives.
In order for you not to wish evil, it will be enough to boast less of your achievements and share joy only with trusted, less envious close people. Do not share successes with those who, in response to this, wish you unhappiness, otherwise it will really knock on your door, because thoughts are material.