People react differently to the events that occur around them, and conditionally they can be divided into two groups: pessimists and optimists. The concepts are quite common, but few people correctly and accurately can explain what a pessimist and optimist means. There are certain criteria by which these people can be distinguished, but in the course of life a person can move from one group to another.
Who is a pessimist?
First, let's look at the dictionary, where it is written that a pessimist is a person who sees only bad things in any events. For him, the world is represented in a greater degree in dark colors. Many call pessimists whiners, because they often complain about their lives and the failures that they face very often. It should be noted that pessimists can not be called losers, because they can become successful in life, always noticing possible difficulties in time. It is also worth noting that the pessimists are the most among the aged people who have experienced numerous disappointments and problems, which makes them pay more attention to the negative sides.
Continuing to understand what a pessimist means, it is worth saying that this "label" is not a sentence and during life a person can look at things in different ways. Everything depends on the circumstances and if everything goes well, then the pessimistic attitude disappears.
What is the difference between a pessimist and an optimist?
- Pessimists more soberly assess the situation and do not overestimate their own capabilities, so it is easier for them to predict their own ups and downs. Optimists in most cases use superficial thinking and often overestimate the bar, facing disappointment.
- Optimists have hope and believe in a good outcome of events, which helps them not to give up and strive for their goals.
- Scientists believe that pessimists have more developed intelligence , so although they are sad, but at the same time wise.
- Optimists live happier, seeing around the wonderful things that allow you to fight with a bad mood and easier to endure stressful situations.
In order not to go to extremes, it is best to find a "golden mean" to properly assess things around and not build illusions.
How to become an optimist from a pessimist?
Psychologists say that every person has the opportunity to change their thinking and learn to look at the world in a different way.
How to stop being a pessimist:
- Do not need to look for the guilty of their failures. Think of them as an experience, from which it is worthwhile to draw the right conclusion, so that you no longer face such problems.
- Believe in your own strength. Do not engage in self-flagellation, even if you have to face failure. Believing in one's own strength will be an important incentive not to stop and try to achieve success again.
- Surround yourself with positive people, because both a good and a bad example is "contagious."
- Eliminate from your life things that are painful and bring discomfort. If you have to do unloved work, then try to deal with them in the morning.
- Read positive books, watch movies and surround yourself with different positive experiences. It is recommended to travel at any opportunity, getting new impressions.
- The main attribute of an optimist is a smile. Try to smile more often, and even to yourself in the mirror. Smiling around you can get an excellent charge of positive emotions. Only this applies to a sincere smile.
- Find an occupation that will distract from problems and bring positive emotions .