Why do conflicts arise between parents and children?

All parents are looking forward to the birth of their baby. They try to surround him with love and care, devote all their time to him and invest in him all that they consider necessary. Meanwhile, after a while, when the baby is growing up, conflicts inevitably arise in the family.

Quite often this situation puts young parents in a stupor. Mom and Dad do not know how to behave with a grown-up offspring, and further aggravate the situation by their wrong actions. In this article, we will tell you why there are conflicts in the family between parents and children, and how they can be resolved.

The causes of conflicts between parents and children

Absolutely all conflicts between the closest people arise from a misunderstanding. A small child, having barely reached 2-3 years, begins to realize himself as a separate person and tries to prove with all his might that he can make his own decisions and perform certain actions without the help of his mother. At the same time it turns out he does not always, which often causes resentment from the parents.

In adolescence, children have a similar problem. Young people and girls want to separate themselves from their parents as soon as possible, who still consider their child a small child. In addition, mom and dad are excessively passionate about their work and give their offspring an insufficient amount of time, which in the future also often results in family quarrels and scandals.

Most professional psychologists identify the following causes of conflict between parents and children:

• age features, or psychological crises;
• lack of attention or hyperope from parents;
• excessive aggressiveness of both sides, unwillingness to listen to the interlocutor;
• non-acceptance of the opinion of the opposing party;
• discrepancy of views on life, which becomes especially noticeable in adolescence;
• excessive fatigue of parents, "looping" at work and other matters not related to the life of the child.

Of course, it can be very difficult to get out of this situation. Especially in the case when parents and children are involved in the conflict, and other persons, for example, grandmothers. Very often in this situation, the authority of the mother and father in the eyes of their son or daughter is significantly reduced, as a result of which it is impossible to achieve certain educational goals.

Despite this, young parents need to try to resolve the conflict as soon as possible. To do this, you need to remain as calm as possible, learn how to listen to your child and take a very close look at his life position, views and tastes.

In difficult situations, when all attempts of parents to establish relations with their child fail, one can turn to a professional psychologist who will help create a favorable microclimate in the family and find a common language for the two opposing sides.

In addition, in all cases it is necessary to pay special attention to the psycho-prevention of conflicts between parents and children, because any quarrel and misunderstanding is much easier to prevent than to correct in the future. The main elements of this direction are the following:

• constant increase in the level of development of parents, the study of the age characteristics of the child;
• formation of joint family hobbies;
• division of responsibilities in the home between mother, father and grown-up children;
• building a clear position in the upbringing of the baby;
• obligatory communication of adults with the child, acquaintance with his inner world.