Almost always, all the "uncomfortable" features of a child are a reflection of parenting. We often create an excellent soil for the development of selfishness in the child. At every opportunity, we emphasize the uniqueness, giftedness or talent of our child, and thereby instill in him the certainty that he is the most special child in the world. Through the time of the crumb begins to behave exactly like this: requires a special relationship and often does not notice others around him.
Egoism perfectly ripens and on the ground of constant indulgence to whims and whims. Parents want to give the kid everything that they themselves did not have in childhood. They ask expensive toys and at each "want" they hurry to the store, at the first sobs they throw all their affairs and give everything to the child all the time. It is only natural that he gets used to this attitude quickly and in the future can not understand why the attitude has changed.
Very often there are situations when parents absolutely sincerely want their children to study, play sports and develop. But the problem is that they want it for their children. As a result, parents solve problems for them in school, clean them in the room or bribe the child with any blessings, so that he does it himself. Both ways lead to the fact that the situation is only aggravated.
Another variant of the development of events is the conscious cultivation of an infantile child. Such children take care for granted and it never even occurs to them that they should show similar qualities in relation to their relatives. In such children, even situations where it is necessary to solve something, does not arise. The result is the most dangerous: the child not only gets used to the constant attention to his person, but also can not live without this attention.
Summing up
So, the situations can be very different, but they all go back to childhood. So scold crumbs for whims or excessive demands are not worth it. You need to scold parents, but with a child and even more so older children need to work. At what, as practice shows, it is necessary to spend half more time, than was spent for formation of egoism.
- Gradually, but confidently take off all those things and responsibilities that your child can perform on his own. For example, children at the age of four years are quite able to clean in their room and put on most of the clothes. Thus, you will gradually remove all that prevents children from growing up.
- Gradually introduce new home duties for the child. If you begin to emphasize the independence of your child and treat him accordingly, he will gradually begin to behave this way. Trust a few simple cases and ask them to bring them to the end. As a reward, praise the child and, if possible, do it with the household.
- Give your child to run into the opposite side of selfishness for once. Many mothers complain that without their care the child simply can not even go to school. In fact, he understands very well that you can not sleep, do not collect textbooks. But after all it can make and mum. Try at least once to take, and not to do for your child all his work. Allow him to face difficulties and troubles.
- After a school day or a kindergarten, be sure to be interested not only in how your child spent the day. Ask him about the affairs of friends. If he really rejoices or worries for them, then there will be no problems and the child will simply grow out of selfishness.