How to become an authority?

The question of how to become an authority in a team or for a child, interested in many, I want to respect everyone. Only here to achieve it is not so simple as it seems at first glance. True, some people make their word with the law seemingly without much effort, but it's about education, a person simply can not behave differently. And everyone else will have to work hard to achieve what they want.

How to become an authority for a child?

Many parents are surprised why their word for the child does not mean anything. In fact, everything is simple - a junior member of the family simply does not believe and does not respect the elders . And parents are to blame for this. The main mistakes are the following moments in the behavior.

1. Often parents use methods of psychological or physical pressure. With this approach it is quite natural that instead of respecting parents receive from the child fear and hatred.
2. It is also often possible to see how parents use many hours of edification and moralizing about how "right", not giving the child and step to step on their own. The result is irritation and a desire to act contrary, even if it leads to undesirable consequences.
3. The most lazy and short-sighted parents do not make any effort at all, using the principle "I'm older - I need to be respected". This way is also doomed to failure, nobody will respect anyone until it understands the reason why a person deserves such an attitude.

But even if these styles of behavior are avoided, the child does not always recognize the authority of the parent. Usually the reasons for this are

• are insincerity, hypocrisy of parents or excessive softness. The recipe for winning respect is simple:
• keep your word, otherwise it will learn to give worthless promises;
• explaining to the child that some things should not be done, and do not do it yourself. "You can not smoke, but I'm an adult and I can do it" - such actions of authority will not be added to you;
• do not do anything "for the show," children are very sensitive to falsity;
• Do not demand perfect behavior from the child, you yourself are mistaken;
• most importantly - respect the personality of your child, recognize his right to his own opinion, do not say that his tastes are terrible only because you do not understand them.

How to become an authority in a team?

Coming to a new job, everyone caught himself thinking: "I want to become an authority, so that they listen to my opinion, and do not miss it."

The first and most important rule, how to become an authority in a new company or among friends, sounds very simple - learn correct communication, treat with respect to all those with whom you are talking, and express your disagreement without going over to insults of the person. A good help can be the ability to treat events with a sense of humor . And of course, one can not be "master of his word - he wanted to give, he wanted to take back," if you promised, do it, and bear responsibility for your words and deeds. And to make all these rules easier, look for respect only in the company that you are interested in, close in spirit, because in a completely unpleasant team, you will quickly get tired of playing the role of "your boyfriend," and it will not bring any joy.