Each person is individual, so it's no wonder that from time to time he comes into conflict with others. The words spoken during the quarrel sometimes hurt the living. Sometimes the grievance disappears immediately after each of the participants in the quarrel calm down, and sometimes it stays in the heart for many years and the person involuntarily becomes a hostage to this feeling.
The theme of forgiveness will always be relevant, as this is one aspect of human relationships. She devoted a lot of art books, scientific literature and even songs. A vivid example of this can serve as a song, performed by Irina Krug learn how to forgive.
If you can not overcome the grievance contrary to all your desires or you are interested in the question of how to learn to forgive loved ones, this article will help you in all sorts out.
How to learn to forgive offenses?
The ability to forgive, has long been considered a property of strong people. A person who is unable to forgive his abuser, because of constant experiences, is exposed to negative emotions. What harms your nervous system, and thus your health. Many people think that just such a character trait as kindness allows a person to have the ability to forgive, but this is not so, because forgiveness is not an act of your complacency, but the only correct way out of this situation.
In fact, it is much easier to forgive an offender, to meet him, than to conceal a grudge and hate his enemy.
- Realize the cause of the conflict. This will help you to understand who is right and who is to blame for the emergence of this conflict, perhaps your opponent did not want to offend you at all, but simply incorrectly spoke to you.
- Relax. Release all the negative aspects accumulated during the conflict situation. Doing sports will help you with this.
- Try to understand your abuser. Look at the conflict situation on the other side. It could have arisen even from the fact that you just fell under the hot hand. If this is so, then is it worth to be angry with this person, because he entered the conflict unconsciously, in a fit of emotion.
- Think about the good. Whether it is an insult hidden on an employee, a family member or friend, you probably have something good to remember about this person, which means that he is not that bad already and he should be forgiven.
- The offended carry water. The ability to be angry with an opponent does not in any way color the person as a person and from the side it may seem that you are simply vindictive. So do not delay reconciliation for later and take the first step towards it.
Thinking about your abuser, admit that we are all human beings and everyone can make a mistake. If you forgive him, then you yourself will be forgiven.