Not only for today, but at all times, non-reciprocal love was by no means a rarity. Moreover, not mutual, and unrequited love is much more common than divided. It seems even that non-reciprocal love is a much stronger feeling than mutual love. To all the unearthly emotions that love brings, a feeling of strong pain is added, which only makes all the sensations stronger and more acute. Let's consider the option when a person comprehends non-reciprocal love, and what to do in this case.
Why is not love mutual?
Each of us has an ideal image of a life partner deep in the subconscious. This image does not manifest itself completely to us, we can not comprehend it, but we can project all the main features of character and appearance to a person who is sympathetic or interesting to us. In other words, we do not meet the ideal man, he only seems so to us. And it is quite clear that the person whom we idealize, in fact, is absolutely not so. This is the first and main reason for non-reciprocal love: we fall in love not with a real person, but with our ideal, with fantasy.
In beautiful films and melodramas, non-reciprocal love almost always ends in a happy ending, but in real life it can lead to much more serious and sad consequences. A person who loves unrequited, sacrifices himself, consciously goes to the conditions under which he will not receive any love in return. It can develop in it serious complexes, stresses and nervous breakdowns, and even prolonged depression.
Consequences of non-reciprocal love
An important in the problem of unrequited love is age. The most dangerous for teenagers can be non-reciprocal love. What to do in this case and how to help the teenager? After all, this is not a mature person who can quite cope with his problems. Teenagers most often carry their idealized subconscious image to popular movie stars or pop stars. Non-reciprocal love develops into unhealthy fanaticism, and your child seems that there is no mutual love at all.
Many parents think that this is a problem that will pass with age, but a teenager needs to be paid attention in any case, so you can get rid of undesirable serious consequences. In this case, it will be very important to know how to help relive non-reciprocal love for a teenager and his fragile young psyche. Try to interest the child with something else, find him a real job, make sure that he as much as possible and more often communicate with his peers. This will distract him from thinking about non-reciprocal love and staying in a world of fantasies and dreams.
We treat non-reciprocal love
It is much harder to cope with non-reciprocal love to an adult person. The formed personality, fully aware of all the realities of the day, is no longer a teenager, who in most cases "outgrows" his problems. We will try to give some effective advice how to get rid of
- Find the courage to admit that your love is non-reciprocal, and any effort will not lead to the desired result. Resign yourself to the state of things - this is the first step to healing.
- Start living a full-fledged real life. Fill every minute of your time, try to keep your head occupied with thoughts of non-reciprocal love.
- Improve yourself: sign up for training courses, for example, language courses, sign up for a gym or dance, find workouts in your spare time.
- Give your non-reciprocal love time that teaches, heals, and makes us stronger. Believe me, after a month / year you will be able to look back at the past with a smile.