For parents, children will always remain ignorant, requiring advice and support. Over time, each of us comes to this and takes it for granted, especially after the birth of our own children. But there is in life and a period when you insistently want to solve everything yourself, reveling in your adulthood and independence. Yes, yes, we are talking about the most difficult and tender age - a teenage.
As children grow up, parents have more and more reasons for apprehension, in particular, it's the emergence of personal life in their children: languid walks under the moon until late in the evening, long walks and kisses in the entrance and so on. Girls' parents are especially worried, which, in principle, is not without reason.
Well, if your daughter is friends with peers - this picture and the eye is more familiar, and in general you are calmer. But if things are very different and your daughter meets an adult guy and even a man? The first reaction of the majority of parents to such news will, of course, is panic. A strained brain "helpfully" draws pictures, where a stranger tempted in all matters of life uncle offends the blood. But do not jump to conclusions and do not make "sudden movements". Hasty affective actions not only will not help to solve the problem, but also significantly affect your relationship with your daughter.
Tips for parents of daughters
We offer several recommendations to help you resolve the situation:
- in no case forbid her to meet with her chosen one in categorical form - the only thing you will achieve by this method is to tune the child against herself;
- talk to your daughter frankly, with all your kind, mood, tone, letting you know that you are friendly. In tactful form, try to find out the questions that concern you most, for example, how far their relationship has "gone";
- try to become your friend's friend, and then for advice she will come to you, and not to the same naive girls. Support her and in no case do not scold or squeal with reproaches in the spirit: "I told you";
- talk to her about sex life, if you have not done this before. You will be surprised, but in our age of the Internet and unlimited access to information, many girls believe the popular myths about sex and contraception , like "from the first time nothing happens" and so on. If the fact of sexual intercourse has already happened, do not make this a tragedy, it is better to take the girl to the gynecologist for the first preventive examination ;
- try to find out the motivation of her daughter - often under the ardent first feeling, taken by exalted teenagers for love, simple desires lie, like "revenge" the former, to show off to friends. If a girl has grown up in an incomplete family, it is likely that in an adult man she will unconsciously look for a father, receiving from these relationships care and love lost in childhood;
- Try to get acquainted with a friend of your daughter - in a delicate form, try to find out his intentions. Do not show obvious aggression and do not ask to leave your daughter alone.
Remember that now for her this person is no less, and maybe even to some extent more close than you are, therefore, your plans should not include conflicts with him; - if a man goes to a contact - this is already a good sign. It is likely that you do not have a big age difference, this fact can significantly affect the establishment of contact and even friendly relations with him;
- stipulate the possibility of meetings at your home, especially if your daughter has a room - let them be better near and "under supervision";
- and most importantly - do not worry! Relations with the opposite sex are an important stage in growing up.