Child-parent relations

Personality of a person, his character and attitude towards others are laid in deep childhood. It depends on how parents raise their child, how fast and easily he will be able to socialize in society, and how his life will continue to flow.

In turn, the nature of child-parent relations is influenced by the traditions adopted in the family, as well as the style of upbringing. We will try to understand this issue in more detail.

Types of child-parent relations

There are quite a few varieties of relationships that can arise between parents and children of different ages. Nevertheless, professional psychologists use the Diana Bombrind classification, which singles out only 4 styles of child-parent relations, each of which has its own peculiarities:

1. An authoritative style is the most preferable, since children brought up in families with this type of parental behavior adapt very easily to changes, learn well, have an adequate self-esteem and often achieve noticeable heights. In this case, the family has a high level of parental control, which, however, is associated with a warm and friendly attitude towards the younger generation. Under such circumstances, children calmly perceive the limits and prohibitions established for them and do not consider their parents' actions unfair.
2. Authoritarian style is characterized by an unusually high level of parental control and a very cold attitude of mom and dad to the child. In this case, parents do not allow discussion or cancellation of their requirements, do not allow children to decide on their own and in the overwhelming majority of cases they achieve absolute dependence of offspring on their opinion. Children who are brought up in such families, most often grow uncommunicative, moody and even somewhat aggressive. With this type of child-parent relationships in adolescence, very often serious problems arise due to the fact that the child is completely alienated from adults, becomes uncontrollable and often gets into unpleasant situations.
3. Liberal style differs from other types of communication between parents and children with an unlimitedly warm attitude and unconditional love. Although this, it would seem, is not bad, in reality, in this case, there often arises permissiveness, which leads to excessive impulsiveness and inadequate behavior of children.
4. Finally, the indifferent style of child-parent relations is characterized by a complete lack of control and interest in the child's life from the parents. Most often this happens in families where mom and dad are excessively involved in work and can not find time for their offspring.

Of course, all parents give their preference to the style of education that is closer to them. Meanwhile, in order for the child-parent relationship to be truly trustworthy, even at preschool age, it is necessary to determine for itself an adequate level of parental control and at the same time not to forget about the need to encourage and praise the child, and also constantly show him his love. Only under such circumstances the baby will feel necessary, due to which he will form a correct attitude towards parents and other close relatives.