Love at first sight is the most romantic and ... contradictory feeling. They do not believe in it, but they secretly wait for it, they reject it, it is inspired by the creation of films, poems, books. We reflect on whether there is love at first sight, what are its signs and what, in fact, is this feeling.
Whether to believe in love at first sight?
Unbelief in love at first sight, as a rule, comes to us over the years, after a series of disappointments and ... with experience. We learn to distrust, and the fear of what they will hurt us, grows and blossoms with a violent color. And then comes the moment when we are skeptical that we do not believe, we reject the possibility of the existence of love at first sight (in spite of the fact that disbelief in any phenomenon does not insure us in any way). But it's nice to think that each of us in the next moment can be pierced by a vivid sense and understanding (albeit ephemeral) of what it is for life.
Psychology, as a rule, views love at first sight through the prism of the understanding that love is a feeling that is not instantaneous, it needs time to crystallize out of the joint experience. At the same time it is considered that it takes us just over a minute to make a choice in favor of a certain partner. For 90 seconds the brain succeeds in matching the image of the ideal (in our view) partner with the image of a stranger. If you consider that this choice can be justified in the future, why not consider it a love at first sight?
Problems of love at first sight
What is considered love at first sight. As a rule, the first meeting is meant, since the condition for the emergence of this kind of love does not need to be a glance and only one. It is proved that sometimes we are in a state where something in a person that has suddenly come through all the consciousness (or rather, the subconscious mind), as if we "recognize" it, tearing the image out of the faceless crowd. The problem is that "recognition" implies an automatic sketch of a portrait, which you think you know to the last detail. Disappointment comes if the difference is very great. However, you must agree, this is not the rule. But the very real rule "love is blind" can help to smoothly survive the correction of the image.
Now let's talk about how we react to a sudden feeling. Most people admit that they take their eyes off if they meet with a person who impressed them. At the same time, the love story at first glance is full of examples, when absolutely unfamiliar people hold hands in a minute, as though they were familiar all their lives. There are many stories of relationships in our world, and although they are all individual, they can be divided into main groups. "Love at first sight" is one of them. After all, people experience disappointment sometimes after many years of living together. Why not give a chance to a feeling that so quickly entered the life, if it brought so many colors and joy.
You just need to remind yourself:
- you love a person whom you just have to learn. Do not think that you know him. Discover new qualities, enjoy the novelty;
- suddenly found half has the right to be itself. Do not try to remake a man, this is also rarely beneficial in long-term relationships.
And, most importantly, there is no need to spoil the feelings that rush through feelings and fears, because no one can foresee what they will lead to. Enjoy what you have experienced, love and be loved! And, who knows, perhaps, on the question of future children, as you met with the pope, you will answer "it was love at first sight" ...