"I'm working on the creation of family coziness, I work, and my husband got himself a mistress!", Saying in this manner what to do next, usually deceived wives sometimes do not know whether to throw out her husband or to spoil his mistress's face. To avoid such questions, let's work out together what to do if a husband has a mistress and how to deal with it.
How to beat off a husband from a mistress - and whether it is necessary?
Most often, the complaint "my husband has a mistress, what to do" is answered in style, the wife herself is to blame, after marriage, she stopped following her, but her headaches too often began to torment her. Her husband's nerves were turned over, and he got himself a mistress. What is advised to do in this case to a frustrated wife is also understandable - to cure her migraine, to return to her "pre-wedding" forms and remember that there is more attractive clothing than an old robe.
If you really have something to fix, then you need to take it. But what to do if everything is good, look excellent, "excuses" from sex are perceived by you as savagery, and the husband still walks "left"? How to separate a husband from a mistress in this case? Are you sure that it's worth it? It's one thing if you depend on your husband, let's say, materially, and his departure will be a tragedy for you - one child will not pull. Then, of course, you will either have to compromise (close your eyes to your mistress, let him do what he wants, the main thing is that he does not leave the family) or think how to divert his husband from his mistress. But if you are financially dependent on "blagovernoy" do not really depend, then maybe you should not strain yourself? It is clear that most men from time to time have intrigues on the side, but do you need someone who does not even try to hide this fact? And do not think that he will limit himself to one such adventure, men from the breed of "walkers" usually behave in a similar manner, as long as health allows.
How to separate a husband from his mistress?
All signs of having a mistress with her husband have been confirmed, but you really want to save your family. How to save your husband from mistress in this case, what to do?
- If you are acquainted with her husband's mistress, for example, a friend is your ex, then you can use everything that you know about her against her. Accidentally talk to her husband about her "adventures" that always end with a health center or a woman's consultation (it's still unknown what's worse for a man - to catch a bug or take a child from a mistress). Tell us that she is on the account of a narcologist (psychiatrist), yes, you were friends, so it was a pity. Recollect all the secrets that she ever shared with you, and expose her in a bad light - the most innocent information, presented correctly, can compromise anyone.
- Suppose that you are not familiar with the mistress of your husband, how do you quarrel with them? Find out the identity razluchnitsy and insist on meeting with her not worth it - well, what can you tell her husband's mistress, what will the effect be? Better work on the most guilty, only scandals do not need, even if he does not know that you know about his intrigue. Try to create conditions in which he would often need to visit with his family - for example, because of hard work (often longer than usual), you can not take children from school (kindergarten). And you can persuade her husband to go on vacation together, sometimes a small part is enough to forget about his mistress, especially if their meetings began not so long ago. Often men start lovers, believing that their wife has already fed up with them, and will not go anywhere. Refute him this confidence, let him be jealous.
- If you decide to talk to your husband about his "left" campaigns, do it with profit for yourself. You do not need tears and hysterics, you can not help scandals. He wants to talk, let him talk, and you listen carefully and draw conclusions, than the other has attracted your spouse.
- Often I really want to arrange a mistress "debriefing", but do not do this. If absolutely unbearable, try to write to the husband's mistress all that you think. After writing, reread, and burn the leaf (file) (delete). You do not need to send such letters, you will satisfy this need for a conversation with your mistress, and you will find it easier to understand yourself.