It is believed that an affair with a colleague is a career-destroying relationship that does not have a happy outcome. Nevertheless, almost half of office workers ever got romances at work, and, contrary to the huge percentage of partings, there are couples who maintained long-term relationships or even married. Since it is officially forbidden to make a novel at work by the majority of respectable companies, it is worthwhile to consider thoroughly whether you need such a romantic adventure to the detriment of a career. All the nuances of the service novel we will discuss with you today.
Pros and cons of the "service novel"
Pros of the novel at work:
- Increase of ability to work. Even the most beloved work can be nurtured, and an easy flirtation with a colleague animates, gives strength and inspires to accomplish. Therefore, liberal-minded companies have recently turned a blind eye to working novels, as a pleasant metamorphosis in the form of increased productivity brightens up possible inconveniences.
- All frankly. If you work in one department, then even without living with a person, you can understand what it will be in everyday life. Habits and manners become visible very quickly and unmistakably. Accordingly, if the habits have pleased each other within the walls of the office, then the problems in your life you are unlikely to appear.
Unfortunately, the minus of the novel with a colleague is much greater. Here they are:
- At all on a kind. If the relationship is serious and long-term, then they are unlikely to hide from colleagues. But I do not want to become a subject of rumors and gossip to anyone. It is uniquely easier to hide a fleeting intrigue - to agree on maintaining working relations after the melting love and leaving this little secret between you.
- Life after. But to remain friends or at least colleagues after a novel at work is not so easy. The paradox of the sexes interferes: men can not forget the women who rejected them, and women, in turn, the men with whom they were in a relationship. The constant contemplation of one's former or former only strengthens the heat. As a result, most collapsed couples fail to escape the internal conflict to the surface. The bottom line: the whole office delves into your underwear, the work capacity falls, the bosses are dissatisfied and your career growth is compromised.
- Manipulation. If you are a boss or a person close to him, then there is a huge risk to remain used for selfish purposes by an unscrupulous "enamored" colleague. In a business world where competition is so great, people can often behave dishonestly, punching the road even in the most heinous ways.
How to make a novel at work: rules of conduct
If you decide on a relationship with a colleague, then you should immediately clearly determine for yourself what you can afford, where and under what circumstances. Who knows, you may be lucky enough to find your destiny at the office table.
- Do not indulge in feelings at work. Affectionate treatment and attention signs should not interfere with the work process. Try not to focus on each other during the working day - exceptions are except that breaks for lunch and coffee breaks. And even in this case, think about whether you need at this stage, that all your employees will know about your feelings.
- Do not give rise to gossip. In a good way, relations should not be opened to the public until both of you are sure of the seriousness of your plans. In the latter case, it makes sense to first tell the boss: so the information will reach him in a straight line, without unnecessary rumors and will not hurt the growth in the service of either of you.
- Keep an even relationship with the rest of the team. Demonstrative removal from colleagues is a violation of corporate ethics, no matter how tempting it might seem to you.
- Do not take dirty linen out of the hut. Quarrels occur in each pair - this is absolutely normal and in moderate amounts leads to solving problems and establishing mutual understanding between people. The main thing is that colleagues can not observe the clarification of your relationship.
But what is better to avoid:
- A novel with a boss. A beautiful movie with a happy end is rarely obtained - usually the subordinate is overboard, both on the personal and on the service front.
- A novel at work with a married man. You can not build happiness on someone else's misfortune - there are no guarantees that one day a departed man will not go away again. This time already from you. In addition, the consequences can be deplorable at the same time for your heart, conscience and career.