To live in marriage all my life, the soul does not get to the soul in everyone, and quarrels always happen in every couple. But what if the husband constantly and undeservedly offends his second half?
Why does the husband insult and humiliate his wife?
What if the husband constantly insults and humiliates his wife? First to understand why he does this. Here are the most common reasons for this behavior.
- Very often after the completion of the romantic period in a relationship, a man begins to feel an encroachment on his living space. And since men are by nature more aggressive than women, the prohibitions of the wife to rest with friends, hiking and fishing are causing such inadequate reactions as insults. The man so expresses his protest at his wife's attempts to "train" him.
- According to statistics, early marriages are not always successful, often a couple of years after the marriage begins a divorce process. Why is this happening? Psychologists say that this happens because the couple is not ready for marriage. First, partners have enough of each other, they are all satisfied. But after a while one of them (more often a man) begins to understand that he was ringed early, that he had not yet had time to enjoy a free life. He expresses this dissatisfaction with the help of insults and humiliations of his wife.
- Whatever they say about women's suspiciousness, men are also those dreamers. Some do not understand women's jokes at all and are ready to take everything at face value. For example, returning from a get-together with friends, his wife asked her husband "where was she?" She would joke "yes, with the girls, stripteaters were invited, had fun". And the husband will start to be jealous, will think up to itself a history of a betrayal of the wife and will believe in it. But instead of finding out the relationship openly, he will bring insults to his wife.
- Sometimes a man shows aggression towards a woman not for some objective reasons, but because of his upbringing. Perhaps he saw this attitude of the father to his mother and now copies his behavior.
What should I do if my husband insults?
In any case, the husband needs to talk. And you need to do this calmly, trying not to break on the response swear words, so as not to provoke her husband even more. If the husband does not want to talk to you differently, as in elevated tones, insulting you, do not continue to communicate. Respect yourself, do not let it communicate with you this way. Continue the conversation only when he behaves normally. But to delay with the conversation is not worth it, the sooner you understand the reason, the earlier you will understand with further actions. Maybe he just jealous of you, and you need to destroy his stupid conjectures as soon as possible.
In addition to the conversation in which you will try to find out the reason for this behavior of your husband, you need to pay attention to his reaction to your actions. In which case he shows aggression more often when he feels pressure, the restriction in any entertainments or his behavior is no explanation, and even to your caresses he can respond with aggression and insults.
Having found out these moments, make conclusions for yourself. A man who breaks up at you because you are forbidding him, just tries to protect his territory. Try to limit it less, because you also want to have the right to meet with friends and shopping trips?
But if the man's behavior does not have any objective reasons, he breaks down on you without any reason, and all the questions "why are you talking to me like this?" Answers "yes because you're a fool!", It makes no sense to try to save the family. After all, if the husband behaves so constantly, insults you with the child, then the child absorbs this line of behavior - since my mother tolerates it, then everything is correct. Do not think in this case, how to wean your husband offend you, look for him approaches and look for reasons in yourself. Since usually such people do not tend to correct in due course, their behavior only worsens and no one can guarantee you that he will stop only on insults, he may even reach abuse. You need it?