The inferiority complex is a feature of the emotional and psychological sensations of the individual, expressed in the detrimental perception of oneself and the superiority of others. A person with an inferiority complex feels worthless, unnecessary, something like a defective product. This problem does not allow him to live peacefully, causing multiple neuroses and depression. In psychology, the inferiority complex is considered to be considered taking into account the general conditions of human existence. It can be inherent in all people and is not a mental disorder. In some situations, it is even useful, for a rethinking of its importance and for the normal development of the individual. So how do you get rid of the inferiority complex and should you get rid of it?
A sense of inferiority can arise due to various reasons:
- mental trauma;
- life failures;
- discrimination, etc.
The first to develop the theory of the inferiority complex was Adler, who noted that this feeling was born at an early age. He showed how defenseless and helpless a being a man is born. Throughout his life he tries to assert himself in society, first in kindergarten, then in school and at work. Everyone has failures, but each affects them in different ways. Someone gets up and, shaking himself of the dust, goes further, and someone breaks down and accuses himself of his insignificance.
Inferiority complex - signs
Many people do not even realize that they suffer from a syndrome of their own undervaluation. They find it difficult to communicate with others and they are constantly experiencing setbacks. The following signs will help you understand your self-esteem.
- Public self-isolation. People with low self-esteem are usually socially isolated. Most often this is not external insulation, but internal. Others do not make this person an outcast, rather he himself considers himself unworthy of their society. He is afraid to do or say something superfluous in their company, that's why he closes.
- Coarseness. This feature of behavior is an attempt to assert itself in the team. Inability to communicate with people, a sense of condemnation on their part generates aggression. Such an original method of self-defense.
- Folding the responsibility off to a healthy head. In case of failures, suffering from an inferiority complex, realizes that he made a mistake, but tries to throw off the blame on external factors. He is justified before everyone, blaming fate and luck, the environment and the bad company. He simply can not bear responsibility for his failures and mistakes.
- Avoiding competition. A person with low self-esteem is afraid of comparing himself with someone. He knows for sure that he will lose in comparison. He does not participate in competitions and does not make any efforts to achieve success.
- Search for shortcomings. A person with an inferiority complex does not give rest to other people's successes. He is looking for shortcomings in successful people, to reduce their self-esteem. He is trying to tighten everyone in his pit.
- Hypersensitivity. A man reacts violently to criticism and praise. Hearing a compliment, they will deny his plausibility, wanting to hear the evidence. Most often there is such a manifestation of the inferiority complex in women. They just ask for a compliment. Criticism also includes impenetrable armor and try to justify itself.
- Fear of making a mistake. The golden rule of a complexed person is: "one who does nothing does not make mistakes." They are afraid to take up any work for fear of not coping with it.
How to deal with the inferiority complex?
Feeling of own uselessness can appear at any person on the certain life period. This is quite normal and people are going through this period and are recovering. It is necessary to get rid of, if this feeling has acquired a chronic character. Special therapy and trainings can help a person gain strength, love themselves and overcome all difficulties. The problem of the inferiority complex will be solved at the moment when a person loves himself.