There is no man in the world who would not be afraid of anything. Some fears exist in our minds at the level of anxiety, others turn into real phobias, violating our peaceful existence. But where does this feeling come from, capable of turning the soul and body, causing the heart to beat more often and waking up in the cold sweat at night? And most importantly, how to overcome the feeling of fear? Let's try to understand this urgent issue.
Causes of fear
Feeling of fear, like all other emotional sensations, lurks in the depths of our consciousness. And most often we do not understand where it comes from. Simply at some point, we begin to feel discomfort, turning into anxiety, and then into a panic. But in order to overcome this sensation, one must know the nature of its origin.
All the fears of man arise for three main reasons:
- Attachment to the objects of the surrounding world and dependence on them. We are all accustomed to surround ourselves with people or objects, without which we can not imagine our existence. Naturally, in the depths of us lives the fear of losing these objects and these people. Clinging to them, we become dependent, and leave too little room for the rational thought that everything sooner or later comes to an end.
- Lack of faith in God and higher powers. Strange as it may sound, but to atheists there is a feeling of anxiety and fear much more often than to believing people. This is especially acute in periods of crisis, when a person lacks spiritual support and begins fear of dependence on luck and chance. On the contrary, believers live more peacefully and harmoniously. They believe that even in difficult times, Something above protects their families and themselves. In addition, they are free from the main human fear - death, tk. in all religions, people believe in life after death.
- Anxiety and fear for their incompetence. In the world, a lot of people who do not believe in their strength, are afraid to stand out from the gray masses and declare themselves. They are afraid of being ridiculed for their inability. From fear they make even more mistakes, and the vicious circle closes, becoming infinite.
- Phobias and panic fear. This variety is a product of the activities of the psyche and the subconscious. Phobias occur even in childhood and eventually become chronic. Another kind of phobia is a consequence of life in big cities. Because of the bustle and high speeds of movement, loneliness among the crowd and loss of themselves today, more and more people feel a sudden sense of fear and very soon become patients of psychologists and psychotherapists.
- A separate category is the fears of women. There are anxiety states that are inherent only in the weaker sex. And they are found quite often. Among the most popular can be identified: the fear of losing a child, the fear of childbirth, the fear of old age, loneliness and finally, the fear of rodents, insects and snakes. Anyway, all these phobias are related to the main purpose of the woman - the continuation of the genus and many of them are genetically laid.
For sure, every person, if he does not know for sure, at least knows the origin of his fear. And it remains for a small, but labor-intensive in the emotional plan process, like overcoming fear.
How to get rid of the feeling of fear?
There is a saying that if you are afraid of something, then this is what you need to do first. And it is not devoid of a certain share of logic. Only looking into the eyes of our fears, we can curb them. How can you overcome fear and forget about it forever? There are several ways to do this:
1. Try not to pay attention to your own fears and just act further. Tell yourself: "Yes, I'm scared, but I'll still do it." Believe me, nothing can compare with the feeling of victory that you will feel after overcoming your fear.
2. Imagine the worst outcome of events that you are afraid of. Let's say you are worried before the performance, and you are not left anxiety and fear. Imagine the worst thing that will happen, if what you are so afraid of will still happen. Mentally adjust yourself to such an outcome of events and detail the picture of your collapse. As soon as you do, your fear will leave you.
3. Train to work with your fears using an effective method:
- determine what kind of fear is most important in your life and interferes with your existence;
- dismantle it in pieces so that at least 5 small fears are formed;
- begin to overcome the lightest fear in the ways indicated above;
- overcome in this way the other small fears;
- Constantly repeat these exercises when you have a feeling of anxiety and fear.
Many people who later became successful in their time also went through overcoming their fears. And they all agree as one: the probability that exactly what we are afraid of will happen to us is almost always zero. Just be prepared for any outcome of the events, and then you will very soon realize that you have absolutely nothing to be afraid of.