There is only one indicator of the correctness or incorrectness of our characters - this is happiness . If our actions lead to happiness, then there is nothing to worry about. However, too little has become in the world of happiness. Now it is customary for boys and girls to be brought up with common values, and as a result, half-women and half-men are obtained. And between the grown up "half-hearted" inevitably there are conflicts at distribution of the rights and obligations in interpersonal relations.
In this regard, people are trying to determine (and, preferably, develop) the qualities of the nature of the spouse and wife. After all, the only way to harmonize your relationship is to take a position predetermined by the psychology of man.
Astrological classification
In astrology, the incompatibility of the characters of the spouses is explained by the fact that the husband and wife belong to different types of personality. There are only two such types in astrology - emotional and reasonable. The emotional type is ranked as Cancers, Pisces, Scorpions, Aries, Streltsov, Lviv. To the sensible, respectively, Capricorn, Taurus, Gemini, Virgo, Libra, Aquarius. The combination of a couple of people from different "worlds" leads to conflicts.
As a result, women complain of masculine insensitivity, if the wife is from the sensual line, and the husband is reasonable. And vice versa.
Psychology of incompatibility
When people marry, they have already established, ingrained traits, habits, views. In the first years of a joint life, the differences of a couple are manifested, and these differences, to one degree or another, are present in all, even the most compatible, people.
Whatever the quality of the nature of the spouse, wife and husband, people begin to adapt to each other with greater or less success. This process in any case leads to conflicts , scandals, quarrels, and sometimes to the psychologist's office.
In psychology there are only four typical problems of "adjoining" couples:
- the lack of mutual understanding is the inability of people to understand the point of view of another, or their inability to prove their rightness;
- divergence of views on issues that require a common opinion in the family - first of all, the problem of choosing a dominant, head of the family;
- incompatibility of characters - any actions, the words of the spouse irritate his partner;
- incompatibility of the habits and actions of partners - the actions and actions of one of the spouses prevent (voluntarily or unwittingly) the achievement of the goals set by the other spouse.
Veda
But the Vedas immediately on the positive: the east speaks about what should be the good qualities of the nature of the spouse and the spouse. That is, what - the female quality, and that - the male.
- Asceticism - that is, asceticism. According to the Vedas, this is an exclusively masculine quality. As soon as a woman resorts to austerity, her female hormones are destroyed. Women should do everything with pleasure (and even get up at 5 am). However, asceticism helps to solve problems. The reason for the asceticism of the wife may be the husband. If the spouse is lying on the couch all day, looking into the box, the woman feels that the family is in a tailspin, and becomes an ascetic.
- Truthfulness and openness are women's character traits. It turns out that when a woman opens her thoughts to her husband, she keeps the family. A spouse who reveals his thoughts and fears makes a man dependent on himself. He can not walk to the left, lie, be lazy, because he will be tormented by a sense of guilt before the purity and sincerity of his wife.
- Calmness is the quality of a husband's character. Tranquility grows out of self-reliance, this cold feeling.
- Peacefulness is a female analogue of tranquility. Pacification grows out of happiness, and means harmony around.