Attitude to the mother-in-law is a painful subject for anecdotes, movies and stories from women's novels. Happens, it even goes so far that before the fly does not offended women reach the rubric of ads "take up dangerous work." But all this could, if not be avoided, at least minimize the consequences of mutual communication. In general, read and be inspired by our advice how to get rid of your mother-in-law. Take note!
1. If you do not have a formal mother-in-law yet, but already have a "potential" hurry to discuss your future with your faithful - make the utmost clarity in relations after marriage, in your and his duties, as well as the role of "visitors" in your home: who rights, powers and, most importantly, where the line is. Having agreed in advance, you will avoid sorrows, scandals, tears and possible divorces.
2. When the question of how to get rid of annoying mother-in-law is no longer hypothetical, but is your awful dream in reality, then your husband should become the main ally. If you do not have time, his "mother" will take him to his side. Arrange a frank conversation and ask him to answer some questions:
- who is responsible for the well-being of your family - are you with your husband or your mother-in-law?
- who is the mistress in your house - you or your mother in law?
- What rights does your mother-in-law have in your home, does her power extend beyond gifts to her grandchildren and gatherings in the evenings, to your personal life and relationships ?
- what means does it allow you to work, in order to place all the points above the "and" with the mother-in-law?
It is useless to ask all these questions if you live with his mother in her house. Understand, a woman at any age remains a female, who protects her territory. She has every right not to let you into the kitchen, clean her room, study and criticize her contents, give you not just advice, but instructions and even orders, and so forth in this spirit ... Only in your territory do you have the right with her fight, only where she is a guest, and not a full-fledged mistress. Under one roof two housewives do not exist.