By its nature, there are no families that always have everything perfect. Sooner or later, the spouses face a crisis in the relationship, which is often associated with the occurrence of intimate relationships. During this period, according to statistics, a large number of divorces occur.
As you know, intimate relationships in marriage have a significant impact on the overall atmosphere of the relationship between spouses. Over the years, the craving for each other is cooling down, the passion that was inherent in the early years of married life departs. Let's try to analyze the reason why it is impossible to keep the fire of love, staying for several years in a marriage. Consider the psychology of intimate relationships and their impact on the relationship of a married couple.
Psychology of intimate relationships
The closeness with the spouse has a feeling of reciprocity, which means that you are concerned about your own and the happiness of your lover, aspire to satisfy both his and your own needs.
True intimate relationships have a positive contribution to the spiritual world of a person, help him not to feel lonely, isolated.
The psychology of such relationships implies emotional openness to their partners. That is, you tell him your feelings and feelings, without fear of being condemned for it. When emotional openness is mutual, the trust of people who love each other with respect to each other is strengthened. But sometimes, as if one of the partners did not want, it is difficult for him to be open, to report that he does not like what he would like to change. The reason for this is the obstacles that arose in childhood.
If one of the partners has a fear of emotional intimacy, then it makes no sense to force oneself. It is worth fighting with children's fears, analyzing their thoughts, fears.
The intimate relationship of a man and a woman is a solid foundation of the marriage itself, but if one of the spouses is unhappy with sex and for some reason hides it from a partner, then soon the foundation will crack. American sexologists claim that 90% of all marriages fall apart precisely because of a lack of sexual harmony. It can not be said that sex is the main thing in marriage, but without this kind of conjugal relationship, as if by chain, there will be no harmony and other types of relationship between husband and wife.
Men and women, as if from different planets, they have different worldviews, understanding of the same things, but they can not without each other. About how to understand the psychology of your partner and understand his relationship to intimate relationships, describes the American psychologist John Gray in one of his books.
He argues that intimate relationships are able to open your heart completely to the wife, help you to realize your true feelings and share them with your wife, and her good sex allows you to relax and feel the support of your beloved man in various areas of life together.
Since over the years, intimate relationships can turn into something like fulfilling a conjugal duty, but not getting pleasure and enjoying each other, then we will consider methods how to diversify sex.
- Pay attention to the dominant colors in the bedroom. Red stimulates the person. Buy, for example, a red night light, in his rays the body looks more sexy and mysterious.
- Erotic lingerie helps create intrigue. If you are not completely exposed, this is an exciting effect on a man.
- Do not forget that foreplay is one of the main
in intimate relationships. Give her more time. - The secrets of intimate relations are hidden, as the Oriental teachings suggest, in careful preparation for the process itself. To increase excitement, you can use rubbing certain aroma oils into the skin.
- Study your sensitivity. Raise it, it can take a fresh look at the long-forgotten old poses.
It is worth noting that the development of intimate relationships in a marriage depends on each of the spouses. Harmony of their relations will always blossom, if openness and trust to each other dominate.