Mutual courtesy and patience help to maintain the peace of mind of all parties to the conflict and quickly find a way out of the situation. However, someone's fatigue, a painful condition or just a habit of rude things can lead to a conflict . And even if the second party did not support the quarrel, an unpleasant sludge or heartache may remain in her soul.
How correctly to respond to insults?
Most people have an offense for an insult: mood deteriorates, aggressiveness and irritability increase. Man, as it were, infects everyone around him with his mood. Moreover, it can take several hours or even days, and an insulting word or phrase will sit in your memory and interfere with a full life. Often a person still and once again remembers the situation in which he was offended, scrolls it in his head, analyzes and thinks how it was necessary to react to such an insult and what could be said at that moment to besiege the offender.
However, those who want to understand the psychology of conflict and how to respond to insults, one important point needs to be realized. It consists in the fact that an aggressive or evil person, an offender, in his words begins to rule over the psyche of those around him. In order not to fall under its influence it is necessary not to react to insults, to behave as if it is not about you.
How to learn not to respond to insults?
In fact, conflict behavior is the problem of the offender himself. It is necessary to regret in the soul of such a person who can not or has not learned to react otherwise. To some extent, you can call such a person sick - mentally ill. Maybe such a person received a mental trauma in childhood, maybe he was brought up like that, but maybe someone insulted him before the conflict, and he carries the negative back on.
In order not to react to an insult, you can do this:
- represent the screaming person as a capricious child who does not know what he wants;
- to represent the abuser with aquarium fish, which opens his mouth, but does not utter a word;
- have a duty phrase on this account, such as "Wonderful rudeness! I have to go!".
It is impossible to find a universal way how to react to aggression and insults, since all situations are different. However, it is important not to give the offender power over your psyche and not let yourself be humiliated. Tranquility and endurance of someone who is shouted or insulted, makes him much higher than the offender, who psychologically loses in this situation and remains dissatisfied with such a reaction.