Tactfulness, or tact, is the ability to behave with restraint, in accordance with ethical norms. People who have a sense of tact, are very nice and pleasant in communication, they not only follow the unspoken rules themselves, but also know how to understand the interlocutor, and do not allow embarrassing situations.
What does "tactful man" mean?
The most important thing that distinguishes tactful behavior from tactless, is the ability to think not only about your desires, needs and motivations, but also about how convenient and pleasant it is for the interlocutor. So, for example, a tactful person will not impose his company when a person is clearly tired and not disposed to talk. Or, for example, he will not ask about the details of an event or an event that a person clearly does not want to discuss.
As a rule, a tactful person has such features:
- modesty;
- equilibrium;
- the ability to control one's curiosity;
- ability to empathy ;
- the ability not only to listen, but also to hear others;
- the ability to put oneself in the place of another person.
It is tact in communication that shows how a person can behave in society. And the highest indicator is when a person is tactful not only at work or with strangers, but also with respect to their loved ones.
Tactical treatment and communication: how to learn?
You can know by heart all the textbooks on etiquette, but simply following the rules does not at all mean that you will be a tactful interlocutor. In order to cultivate a sense of tact, it is necessary to develop such traits and skills:
- In any situation, before you make a request or offer, try to put yourself in the place of another. Is it appropriate for you now to hear your words? Do they not touch his feelings? Will they force him to abandon the planned plans out of courtesy? Is it convenient for him to talk now at all? Imagine how you would react, tell you now these words. And only if you do not see anything wrong in this, it can be pronounced.
- Guided by the sense of proportion: do not overreact to the person with questions, unnecessary quibbles or compliments.
- Act on the situation, because in each place it looks more appropriate one
model of behavior. - Behave naturally, refrain from mannerisms and excessive drama.
- In any situation, control emotions : do not laugh at all, do not cry out in surprise, do not shout with delight.
Today tactful people are becoming rare. A tactful person is not only well educated and polite, but also knows how not to put others in an embarrassing position, feels the boundaries of communication and is therefore always pleasant and comfortable in conversation.